He texted me a pic of his anatomy!??

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Registered: 01-11-2005
He texted me a pic of his anatomy!??
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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 1:44am
Oh my gosh, I can't believe this guy just did this! I dated this guy a few times, and I slept with him twice since and now he texted my phone a picture of his private anatomy part in "action"! I was so shocked. Is this normal? Or is this a bad sign - a sign that the only thing he thinks about me is a sex object and not a whole person? I can't believe he sent this to me!! What was/is he thinking? Do real boyfriends do this thing this day and age? Is this normal and I jsut don't know about it yet? (been out of the dating scenee for a while) Or is this not normal and only sleazy people do this to people they don't respect? I feel this is too way too raunchy for my tastes, and far beneath me. or am I being too much a prude and it's not really that big a deal? Should I feel offended or not? Is this normal or not? How should I take this???

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Registered: 01-18-2004
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 3:57am
He would be on my blocked list already.
Cheryl
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 8:25am

I've had a man I barely knew send me a lovely picture of his penis. I'm no psychological expert but I think the reasons men do this are as follows:

1) Some have a perverted streak that enjoy doing the taboo. They figure you will be embarrassed and won't tell anyone.

2) It is a form of sexual harassment. Some people enjoy making others feel uncomfortable, and get something from it.

3) They feel they have an outside chance of starting a sexual diologue with you that may lead to sex, video sex, sex-charged emails and perhaps more.

Should you feel offended? Probably. Is this normal? No.

My suggestion would be to cease all communication with this man, unless you like this sort of thing.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 8:43am

No, you are not being a prude.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 9:33am
I don't think it is such a big deal because you already dated and slept with him. It is not like you haven't seen or even felt it before. The funny thing is I am a bit of a prude.(lol)I will not have sex with a man until I am engaged, married or otherwise seriously committed but I do have a friend that I chat with and he sent me one. I liked it. haha. I was not offended but if I was I would have told him so he would not do it again. It is about respecting your feelings but in order for him to do so, you must tell him how you feel about it, good or bad.
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Registered: 11-04-2005
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 10:00am
You've seen a range of responses so it really depends on your definition of "normal." It sounds like it made you uncomfortable, though. As far as whether or not this something couples commonly do? Not in my relationship! Honestly if my boyfriend suddenly started doing this, I'd wonder what was wrong with him. But then, I do consider myself a bit of a prude, so there you go.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 11:34am

Oh, GROSS!!! That is truly disgusting, IMO.

No, to me that's not "normal". I wouldn't continue to see the guy, because to me, there's nothing he could say or do that would outweigh the incredible *wrongness* of doing something like that!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 11:45am
Finally! This was the first "OH GROSS!" response. I thought they'd ALL be that. I'm shocked that the rest weren't equally grossed out. The thought of doing that would never even cross my mind, and if I did have a moment of insanity and did it, I'd expect the girl I did it to to a) never speak to me again, b) notify the authorities, and c) broadcast the picture to everyone I knew. In short... Ewwwwwwwww!
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 12:18pm

I agree.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 1:16pm
Wait! Wait! What part of the anatomy are you talking about? haha. As a 30 some year old virgin sometimes my naivity gets me lost. haha
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 05-23-2006 - 2:58pm
Please do not take offense to what I am going to say as I am just trying to understand your point. You only dated this guy a few times and already slept with him twice but you don't worry about that being perceived as raunchy? Yet you think just seeing a picture of a guy's anatomy that you apparently liked is raunchy? I just don't understand that logic. I personally think sleeping with someone so soon is raunchy, not looking at a picture.

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