He texted me a pic of his anatomy!??

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Registered: 01-11-2005
He texted me a pic of his anatomy!??
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Tue, 05-23-2006 - 1:44am
Oh my gosh, I can't believe this guy just did this! I dated this guy a few times, and I slept with him twice since and now he texted my phone a picture of his private anatomy part in "action"! I was so shocked. Is this normal? Or is this a bad sign - a sign that the only thing he thinks about me is a sex object and not a whole person? I can't believe he sent this to me!! What was/is he thinking? Do real boyfriends do this thing this day and age? Is this normal and I jsut don't know about it yet? (been out of the dating scenee for a while) Or is this not normal and only sleazy people do this to people they don't respect? I feel this is too way too raunchy for my tastes, and far beneath me. or am I being too much a prude and it's not really that big a deal? Should I feel offended or not? Is this normal or not? How should I take this???

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 2:59pm
I was just trying to understand what the difference is to you, also, I do not got to sleazy strip clubs of any sort. I have in the past counseled strippers/hookers in my previous occupation, that is how I know the truth. You would not always know which stripper is a hooker and which one has hiv or not. Sorry, you would never know the difference just by looking and whether they are nude or semi-nude doesn't matter.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 3:05pm
Sorry I have to disagree, I simply was trying to understand the posts which seemed contradictary to me, almost hypocritical. You are being just the same by sending me your post and your self righteous pure of heart, which is a bit phony in my opinion.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 3:19pm
Everyone here is entitled to their opinion and call this guy a weirdo, sleaze, etc. and that is not judgemental? Then when I state my opinions on things it gets such negative reaction. It is like everything you say is ok but if anyone else says their opinion that is different from yours, you all freak out. That is called being HYPOCRITICAL. All I was doing is asking why one action is so much worse than another. As in a nudy pic is so awful, but sleeping with someone so soon is not awful. A man who goes to watch strippers, many of whom are hookers too, of course he doens't want to acknowledge that as it makes him appear as a loser to watch hookers strip, but it is the truth. He then condemns another man for sending a nude pic. COME ON PEOPLE YOU ARE THE ONES NOT ACCEPTING OF OTHER'S VIEWS, YOU ONLY ACCEPT YOUR OWN IDEA OF WHAT IS RIGHT AND WRONG. I simply was trying to figure out the reasoning for this. Sorry to cause such a stir. I wish you all well. Goodbye from an inquiring mind only.
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 9:07pm

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Well sex between two consenting adults, is socially acceptable. Sending a nudy photo is considered "perverted", especially if the photo is unsolicited. Had he rang her up and said "hey, I want to send you a nudy picture of me, whaddaya say?" And she said "ok", no one would think much of it. But it is a slap in her face that his genitalia ended up in the same frame with another woman. This guy is trying to be *so cool*, but IMO, he looks like a jerk.

Again, in the strip club scene, everyone consents. The people dancing and stripping and the patrons. When everyone consents, it's a complete different story.

I don't believe in premarital sex either. I had sex before I became a born-again believer in Christ, but since I found out the bible says not to have sex before marriage, I swore off of it. However, I KNOW most people don't have the same view I do, so I don't try to convince people to have my views. I usually don't even bother to tell people my views on premarital sex, because it is too much work explaining myself, much less try to convince others to "come over to the celibate side".

Anyway, we all need to respect other people's choices in life and if they have a problem, vent or situation, we are not supposed to judge them. Hope my post doesn't offend you, but I just wanted to state where I'm coming from.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:21pm

=A man who goes to watch strippers, many of whom are hookers too, of course he doens't want to acknowledge that as it makes him appear as a loser to watch hookers strip, but it is the truth.=

Or not. I defy you to find more than a handful of heterosexual men over the age of 20 who have NOT been to a strip club at one point or another.

=He then condemns another man for sending a nude pic. COME ON PEOPLE YOU ARE THE ONES NOT ACCEPTING OF OTHER'S VIEWS, YOU ONLY ACCEPT YOUR OWN IDEA OF WHAT IS RIGHT AND WRONG.=

I doubt that less than 1 in a hundred thousand guys, if that, would even think of, let alone go through with the idea of emailing a picture of his privates.

=I simply was trying to figure out the reasoning for this.=

Here ya go... the former is normal and common; the latter is abnormal, uncommon and disturbed.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 9:58pm
It's definitely sleazy. Yuck - it's not like you asked this joker to send it. This is invaluable information about his character - or lack thereof.
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