He wants a break. Whats Best for Me??
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| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 1:01am |
Ive been with my boyfriend about 8 months now and things havent been the same lately....A few days ago i brought this up and he decided we should go on a "break". He says he thinks its the best idea so our relationship doesnt go bad, and so we wont break up altogether. He said he cares for me a lot but he needs some time to miss me, and that it seems he sees me more than anyone else. I know hes busy with school, work, and everything else but still i only see him about 4 days a week! Its not like we are together everyday! We do talk on the phone a couple times a day however. So i asked him if he wanted me to see other people during this break, and he told me if it makes me happy then yes. But he has no intentions of going and finding someone else, he just needs space right now. He said he still wants us to call eachother during our time off and i told him i dont feel comfortable with it, and he said dont do this dont act like this, and he asked me if i was happy, and i said lately not as much , i told him i really couldnt talk to him right now and the last thing he said before i hung up is "ill call you".
Now ill admit in all my relationships ive never been on a "break". To me this is like breaking up is it not? I love him so much but i know i deserve to be with someone who wants me, and as much as i would like to be with him, im afraid he wont miss me because of the simple fact he even needed a break. Im really heartbroken right now but im thinking maybe i should call him -when im ready to do so- and tell him that as much as i care for him we need to actually put an end to our relationship and i hope we can still be friends....
Is this the right thing to do? Will it be a little easier for me to get over him if i suck it up and just break it off altogether? Does he already have someone else? Did he ever really care? I have so many questions and i know you guys cant answer them all, but from listening to my situation can someone please give me some input?

If you want to go along with the break, then I suggest that you cut off all contact from him during that break. Has he said how long of a break he would want? You could tell him you want no contact for 3 weeks (or more) and go from there. And stick to it. During that time, whether a break or not, do go out and do things with others. If someone asks you on a date, go!