He wants to resume our "friendship"

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Registered: 05-01-2013
He wants to resume our "friendship"
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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 1:09am

I dated a guy 8 months ago, we went out 6 times. He was single and I was single,we met on OKcupid. While I was seeing him, I got sick and didnt keep in contact for a couple of days. Once I got better I called and made another date, which was our last. On the date he started being werid saying I just disappeared and wasnt answering his calls or messages. I wasnt answering anyones calls just sleeping all day because of the medication. We went out to dinner and I dropped him off to work and said I would pick him up, he said ok and gave me a kiss. Later that morning, I picked him up from work and while driving to his house, he began being really werid, he said he needed to say something, that when I was not answering his calls for 2 days he got back with his gf, he thought I didnt want to be with him anymore. I shocked and pulled over and told him to get out, i deleted him from all social networking sites.....we never spoke again.

Now, his gf left him again, he wants to be "friends" again. He found my OK profile and says the following: I was hoping we could start talking again. You were a lot of fun to talk to. My relationship fell apart recently, in a really bad way, and I've been alone without many people I can talk to because everyone I know is busy with their own lives.  I do hope you will write me back.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 09-23-2013 - 10:44am

How do you feel about this guy?  You didn't contact him for a couple of days & he got back w/ his GF?  Like he couldn't be alone for a few days?  (although if you were sick, and he was calling, I don't think it would be that hard to text him that you were sick & couldn't talk)  But anyway, his GF breaks up w/ him and immediately he needs to find someone else, so he calls you--isn't that convenient?  I would just be worried that the minute his GF calls back, then he'd dump you & go back to her.

Recently I got a call from a guy I dated TWO YEARS ago--we went on 2 dates in the spring, then he didn't call, later in the fall we were both on an OLD site again & started talking, so he asked me out & I figured I'd give him another chance.  He said he would call and then didn't so I figured that was that--I just thought he was ok, I wasn't crazy about him.  So now he calls and wants me to call him back (I hadn't answered the phone, just got a VM).  My reaction was well so you thought you could get someone better than me, apparently hasn't found anyone and he must be going through his old phone numbers or something and thought I must be waiting around for him--I don't think so.  It surely didn't make me feel special at all.  I'm not even dating anyone, but I just thought that if he had really liked me when we were dating, he would have called again, so I just assume that if we went out again, we wouldn't like each other any more than we did before & it still wouldn't work out.