he wasn't who i think he was?

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Registered: 02-07-2004
he wasn't who i think he was?
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Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:37am

Ever get a crush on someone who you think is so funny, kind, nonchalent and cool? Just a good all-around guy that never seems bothered by anything and is always happy, etc? Then when you start dating, you realize he is kind and nice but he's also super sensitive and whines and pouts and is pretty needy? (like the roles of male/female are reversed) I never saw this side of him before and I think I was pretty blind-sided by it. I'm not sure if it's a negative point but it's definitely not a positive one.

I'm just wondering if this happens a lot.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:59am
Absolutely. People are usually on their best behavior early on in a relationship and/or when you are trying to impress someone that likes you or that has a crush on you. You behave differently and then once you become more "comfortable" in the relationship, your ture self comes out. That's probably what's happening. And yes, it is not a positive trait! You don't need to be his mother, you want to be his girlfriend. Something to think about whether you can handle that.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 7:04pm

That's the great thing about dating, you get to unearth these little nuggets.

Many people live with their game face on. If you date effectively you can see behind the mask.