he wony commit

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Registered: 02-13-2006
he wony commit
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 2:56am
This is a little complicated, but I have been seeing this guy on again off again for 2 and a half years. He recently moved in with me, spends all his time with me, plans vacations, blah blah but when it comes down to it he is very adamit HE IS NOT MY BOYFRIEND. I have asked him in the past and he says he can't commit to me, his reasons are bull, saying he just can't ever love me, I am to weak for him, this isn't a good time, yet when I go out with another guy he is jelous. I don't know what to do??? Should I continue with the way things are, get rid of him, or ask him to commit and if so how??? I'm starting to think it's like the old saying goes, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: kds3853
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 6:36am

What to do? Kick him out! Why is he living with you if he says all those negative things about you? What do you want in life? If it's more than what he's offering, then start endnig it. You won't get what you want from this guy and he's letting you know that upfront.


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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: kds3853
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 11:26pm
....."I'm starting to think it's like the old saying goes, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.".....

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Registered: 09-20-2004
In reply to: kds3853
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 1:47am
Lord, why on earth would you WANT this guy to commit!?! If this guy sounds like a good deal to you, then it is you hunny bunny who should think about being committed. (Institutionally speaking) As you pitch him out the door thank him for making it easy to do.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: kds3853
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 10:02am
It was very painful but this guy is giving you the gift of honesty - he says he is not your boyfriend, he can't ever love you, he's not treating you well, why are you there? Get out and find someone who wants you the way you are and treats you with love and respect.
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Registered: 11-24-2004
In reply to: kds3853
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 2:42pm
Wait a minute. Let me get this straight (as soon as I pick up my chin from the floor). Okay, here we go. You mean to tell me this bloke moved in with you, but doesn't want a commitment. He says negative stuff about you and get jealous when you date? What's up with that? Why did he move in with you in the first place? Is he financially struggling or something? And he's got the nerve to be jealous when you date someone else? Here's what I think. He is only jealous, because if you get serious with another guy, eventually, he'll have to move out, so you can cohabit with your new guy. And he'll have to find another girl to latch onto. Everything he is doing, he's doing out of convenience. Don't seek a commitment from him. It will be "forced" and he'll soon feel resentful. I say give his arse the toss!

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