Of course I have had those feelings when i first met a person......you need to act on your feelings and see if the person is having the same feelings. When I had those feelings towards someone i just met it took me a while to act on my feeling but when i finally did he was very interested and told me that he was interested from the begining and was too shy to act on on his feelings.
Yes, this has happened to me before after I've spoken to the person a few minutes or even just been briefly introduced to them--instant attraction I guess. My instincts were usually right and I ended up really liking the guys. It was usually something about the way they expressed themselves, their mannerisms and the way they looked at me that sealed the deal. But this past Thursday, I didn't even speak to a guy but just saw him on the subway and I felt very drawn to him. It was as if I knew him and I got that nervous excitement going. I stood in front of him on the subway for half an hour maybe and was unable to come up with anything to start a conversation even though he was facing me and seemed to be mirroring my body language. He just had nothing distinctive about him that I could begin a converstion with without sounding cheesy. Then I was kicking myself for not just making a fool of myself and saying something stupid--anything just to get a conversation going even though there were lots of people around. Hopefully, I'll run into him again and have something to say (sigh).
I met a guy on the subway just last week. He initiated the conversation but the way I had helped that is I would look at him and when our eyes met, I smiled. Then I would look away. Eventually, he came over and started chatting. He told me on the phone that he felt comfortable doing so because I was smiling. Maybe that would help you next time?
Or you could always do the old drop something routine... ;o)
Haha, yeah, I'm from New York. I'm always riding that N train. I don't usually talk to men on subways since people always have their headphones on and don't seem to be open to meeting others...I gave him a brief look into his eyes with a demure smile but he was pretty much right in front of me since I purposely stood closer to him in case one of us would want to start up a conversation since the train was so crowded so it was hard to make lots of eye contact. I took out my cell phone because I was fidgety I guess and he did the same right after me and then I realized later on that asking him about his cell phone would have been the perfect opener. Damn, I should have dropped something, shouldn't have I? Ah, the woes of being a New York single.:D
Oh yes! I've had this happen to me as well! I don't know what it's all about. It's a good feeling for me, yet it's a frightening feeling too, because I don't know why I get this way or what caused it. Sometimes it scares me so much that I tend to avoid the person or run from him when I see him. (Sigh)
Subway? Are you in NYC? :o)
I met a guy on the subway just last week. He initiated the conversation but the way I had helped that is I would look at him and when our eyes met, I smiled. Then I would look away. Eventually, he came over and started chatting. He told me on the phone that he felt comfortable doing so because I was smiling. Maybe that would help you next time?
Or you could always do the old drop something routine... ;o)
I don't know what it's all about. It's a good feeling for me, yet it's a frightening feeling too, because I don't know why I get this way or what caused it. Sometimes it scares me so much that I tend to avoid the person or run from him when I see him. (Sigh)