Heart Broken and Confused

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2003
Heart Broken and Confused
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Sun, 06-27-2004 - 3:19am
Ok well my first serious bf broke up with me for someone else who he had been cheating on me with and I was totally heart broken for a long time as he was the first guy i slept with and my first real heart break so I was messed up for awhile but then about four months later out of the blue i get a txt msg from his brother who i had been close too and we went out and on our second date he told me he was in love with me I told him I didnt want a relationship because i was so scared of getting hurt and he said he had always loved me and said I promise with all my heart that ill try to never ever hurt you, you mean more to me then anything. So i fell for it i guess i believed it because it felt like their really had always been a bond between us, he isnt exactly the best looking guy and everyone was shocked that i was going out with him, i was his first gf and he lost his virginity to me but other ppl thought i was too good for him but i was attracted to him to me he was gorgeous. Anyway after awhile of going out i told him i wanted to see him more and wanted a more serious relationship ( i'd really fallen in love with him and it felt like he never wanted to be with me although he told me i was beautiful and he loved me everytime i seen him ) when i told him this he said he couldnt see us long term and he would rather die then hurt me but he would always love me and would be their if i needed a friend. Well two months later and i have tried several times to talk to him and he pushes me away , he's been quite rude actually, i havent seen him face to face at all but i heard he's just been hanging out with the guys. I'm confused about many things i don't know whether he really did love me or if that was all crap bcos the way he's treating me now really hurts , i've told him i miss him , i've asked him to talk face to face, i've even seen if he wanted to hang out just as friends and ive been rejected everytime. I really love him and i realise now i should never have asked for a serious relationship things would have stayed the way they were and i'd only see him 1-2 times a week but thats better then nothing. now i've lost it all and i've realised he's never coming back :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2004
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 9:06am
Just curious here-but how old are you all? From what you said--all I can conclude (and this is trying not to be harsh) but you were probably used---he said what he needed to say to get what he wanted and then that's it--didn't want to hurt you, would never hurt you, but just want to be friends (he said AFTER he slept with you.) Walk away and never look back no matter how hard it is. I'm serious here. You were probably used. Hold your head up high and move on.