Heart or head?

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Heart or head?
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Sun, 03-14-2004 - 4:05pm
When you ladies and gents make choices about relationships, how do you know where your thoughts are really coming from? How can you be sure if something is coming from the heart or the head?

I don't have a specific situation in which I'm needing to decide... just wondering how people know the difference since sometimes it becomes intertwined for me.

Thanks. :)

 

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: bklynchik
Sun, 03-14-2004 - 5:15pm

Actually, I think initially it is intertwined for most people. But once the heart settles down and the head takes over is when see reality. You know what they say... love is blind... that's cause you didn't see it coming!


There's an old song by the Judds - "Momma He's Crazy" - and in that song there is a line...Momma, you've always said you'd better look before you leap. Well, maybe so, but here I go, lettin' my heart lead me..."


All to often we do that - we are so caught up in the euphoria that we have to settle down to get a glimpse of reality. That's when the head takes over and we begin to rationalize and see things as they really are.


The trick is to balance the head and heart in the emotional arena - sometimes not a very easy thing to do... sometimes we just don't look before we leap.


tg

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bklynchik
Sun, 03-14-2004 - 8:12pm
I don't think it really matters except that I try not to rationalize and I don't date someone just because he's Mr. Right on Paper - that is not the kind of connection I am looking for- that is a non-connection, IMHO. I think decisions about long term relationships/marriage should involve both heart and head and I think often head over heels/infatuation is mistaken for a heart-based decision when it is "just" infatuation.