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HELP!!
| Sat, 11-26-2005 - 2:49am |
I am 29 years old, and I have never been on a date before! There have been plenty of guys that I have been interested in, but not one of them has ever been interested in me (that I know of). I am a very friendly and somewhat outgoing person, I get along well with guys but always end up feeling 'like one of the guys' instead of them looking at me like I could be something more. How do I get them to start thinking of me as possible dating-material instead of just a friend? I've never been good at being the helpless needy female, but I'm wondering if that could be my problem? Any opinions?

You don't need to be a helplessly needy female, that won't attract most men. But you probably do need to learn how to flirt. The first thing I would do is find a nice available man that you see from time to time. If you meet up with him ask lots of questions about his job, vacation, family and hobbies. Sooner or later he will realize that you seem genuinely interested in him. Smile pleasantly and look him in the eye.
Now here is where myself and most women on this board will disagree. Most will say to wait patiently until he asks you out. But what I would do is ask him if he wants to go grab coffee with you (because you were headed in that direction anyway). If you spend enough time with a man hanging on his every word he will eventually get the idea that you are interested in him romantically. If he mentions that he likes hiking, NASCAR, piano concertos or something else that you like, make sure you tell him that you like the hobby/sport as well.
This methodology usually works like a charm and you don't have to turn yourself into a giggling, airheaded buffoon.