HELP!!!!

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Registered: 12-09-2003
HELP!!!!
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Wed, 10-20-2004 - 10:58am
I recently met a guy through a friend....so that friend has been trying to get the two of us in the same place....Problem is, I am very shy and have trouble with small talk or trying to keep a conversation going. I've met him a couple of times, but we really haven't talked much. I'm very interested in getting to know him and he has told my friend that he thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. I'm 25 years old, always single and I don't have a lot of experience with dating. I usually end up dating guys that I'm already friends with. I'm going to a bar tonight to watch the Yankee game and he will be there. I just don't know what to talk about and/or how to start a conversation or how to really keep one going if he starts it. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: isis4414
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 11:19am
isis4414...

Pianoguy got an "instant flashback" to a Saturday morning TV show based on your name. And the actress who played ISIS probably wasn't nearly as pretty as you are?

Your shyness shouldn't hold you back. What do you and the man you're seeing have in common? Hobbies? Politics? Pets? Favorite movies or sports teams? Music? (That's my favorite)! These are all subjects that the 2 of you should be able to talk about FOR HOURS!

It's amazing how easy it is to get comfortable with another person when you can "just be yourself!"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 10-21-2004
In reply to: isis4414
Thu, 10-21-2004 - 6:13pm
I was really shy too. I think that when you talk with them you have to get to know them more to know really what to talk about. When you say something and he seems to like it maybe that could be a topic you could expand on. Some boring things would be like what he does and how long he had been doing it for and so on. I am not positive but i know that when i was shy i just payed attention to a guys body language. It helped a little to get me going. Dont be shy i know that it is hard. I have been really shy. and i noticed that it does not help and it is just like cornering your self in for the worst. But no worries if he really likes you i do not think that he will care too much on how you are shy for the first few times. He will take the time to get to know you as well and you wil not have to worry. Let him do lots of talking as well..
Have fun.. i hope that i have not said anyhing to hurt your feelings. I know that i was a little harsh and i did not want any thing to be miss understood.
I hope you have a good date and that you guys will hit it off good.