HELP!

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Registered: 07-08-2004
HELP!
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 1:03am
Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 6 months,and hes the first guy ive ever done anything with,as in kissing or fooling around with,he and i have a great relationship and he knows about my unexperincedness with guys.I knows he loves me and cares for me deeply.But im still afraid if i let him go too far how will i know?And if he goes to where he wants to with me,will he leave me? I dont really know my way around and so hes usually the one who feels his way about me..i dont mind it but im scared that he could go to far and i couldnt stop him,or that he would leave because he has what he wants and im so unexperinced..im really frusterated...Any help with this would be greatly appreciated
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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: luckydarkness17
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 12:28pm
You don't have to do anything you are not comfortable with. If you do not feel ready for sex, you have EVERY right to say so. Any guy should respect that and any guy that doesn't should be tossed out! Can I ask how old you both are? Not that it makes a difference, but guys can think more with their hormones at times and try to talk you into doing something that you're not ready for. Do not fall for the "if you loved me..." line, because truly, if they loved YOU they would RESPECT your wishes. Since you also mention that you don't "know your way around", may I suggest you go to the library and do a little reading on sex and the male body? Learning of some other ways you could please him could take the pressure off of having sex. Another thing to look up is birth control and safe sex. You should not be having sex without a condom, not only for protection against pregnancy but also against any sexually transmitted diseases. When and if you do decide to start having sex, you should talk to your doctor about birth control.

If you are worried about him using you for sex and leaving, it's a VALID concern. Do not give into having sex just to *keep* him there. It's not worth it, you are worth MORE than that. If this guy loves you, he will wait.

I really hope that helps. Be strong.

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