Help! 2nd planned meet with awesome guy!
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| Sun, 01-08-2006 - 6:34pm |
Hi,
I posted a few weeks ago about meeting a really great guy on an airplane. (see link below)
I've got a work trip to his city next week and I'm going to fly in and spend the weekend there with a friend/colleague. When I knew I could take the trip i called the guy and let him know it was tentative for one of 2 weekends - he said the 2nd one he'd be away but the first one would work and we could hang out/go for drinks (he said it twice that the first weekend would be better). He said to let him know when I get it worked out which weekend. I made every effort to get it booked for that first weekend - and I succeeded : ) What should I do - call him or just send him an email and let him know when I'll be in town? Should I say I hope to see him or just leave it to him to reply and invite me out? Also - should I mention the friend will be with me? - how will I know if he'll meet me for a drink alone or bring his own friends? So many questions - not sure how to approach this. I just want the chance to see him again and see if the chemistry I think was there before is real. When we went out the first time it was with his buddy because he was traveling and would only see his friend that one night - obviously he couldn't ditch him to go out with a girl that he just met.
Thanks for your help.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rldatingdil&msg=29237.1&ctx=512

I would just email him and let him know it winds up that you'll be in town on the first weekend and if the offer still stands, call/email you.
When he does call, then let him know your friend will be around and if it's ok for it to be a group thing.
Good luck~
Give him a call, be bubbly and enthusiastic. Can't your friend/colleague occupy herself why you are meeting this guy for a drink.
Hey - so I emailed him yesterday morning and just said,
"Have a good weekend? I'm jealous of your time off... my classes already started again last Tuesday.
So my trip to Boston is on for next week. I'm flying in this Saturday afternoon (14th). It would be really nice to see you again!"
I've had no reply!!!??? I'm kicking myself for not just calling him!!! What should I do? I'm starting to worry that he isnt checking his school email because he's on break until next week.
First of all, trust me,, I am no dating heroine over here... but,, I feel your pain.
Its always so confusing with these damn men!!
Since you emailed him yesterday & you're concerned you'll be in town & he won't check his emails, I would (even though it would be really hard) but,, I would wait until I got into town to call.
Then, once you get into Boston, give him a ring,, stay your bubbly self & say guess what, i am in town.. tell him where you're gonna be with your friend and see if he takes the bait. I mean, he should....But,, you never know with these things...
Good Luck... Dating is horrible, I know... I hope he just replies to your damn email so you don't have to be on pins & needles wondering.....
-Stacey
Hi Londoness,
That's because men (in general) rarely agonize over how to communicate with a new woman, nor do they over-analyze the words spoken during a last meeting or conversation,
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I'm confused... how is he leaving you hanging? You emailed him and if he's not at school or checking that email then it's nothing to do with you. Since you're stressing it, I would suggest calling him. And for now on, if you're going to meet up with a guy don't text, email, etc. CALL HIM!
:o)
Oh, trust me,, I know all about it...
I (unfortunately) am one of those 'obsessive' types...
Not that I'm proud of it or anything but I tend to overanalyze & obsess when it comes to these things.
The trick (so I've been told!!) is to keep yourself occupied and as busy as possible so you don't think about it...
Some days I just obsess and analyze all day long and then other days,, are much better.
Re-reading this I know I sound like some sort of some psycho but I'm really not!!
Anyways,, go out with your friends, read a great book, exercise and stay busy!!
Another thing that 'appeals' to the opposite sex is when they know that we have our own life.. Not to always be so available, ya know??
Good Luck...
And,, my Aunt gave me some funny advice.... She said I'm in 'Toad Mode'.
Ya gotta kiss alotta toads before you find your prince!!! =)
-Stacey