Help!

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Registered: 03-25-2004
Help!
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:32am
I've been dating this guy for a couple of years now. We knew each other a long time ago and he liked me then but I felt like he was more like just a friend. Since we met up again, I became attracted to him. We started dating and moved in together a year later. Now I don't feel as attracted to him as I used to. A big problem is that I lost a job and am having a hard time finding a new one. He says he doesn't understand why because it was so easy for him to find his job (several years ago!). I tell him that things are different now and it's getting difficult for a lot of people to find a job. He shows me budgets letting me know how much my unemployment has cost us which makes me feel even more guilty and desperate. I'm really trying but I don't think he believes me. Sometimes he gets angry with me for not having a job yet but I don't know what else I can do. His attitude upsets me and that, in turn, probably affects my attitude when it comes to job hunting. I've told him that I don't appreciate the way he's been acting but it doesn't seem to do any good. What should I do?
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Registered: 06-13-2003
In reply to: misha32
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:42am
If you honestly have been trying to find employment, then what you should do now is decide if you want to spend your life in a relationship with an unsupportive partner. IMO the state of a relationship at the emotional level directly affects the feelings you have on the physical level. That's why I think the physical bond and attraction sometimes fades between people -- because their emotional bond (communication, support, honesty, consideration, etc) is just not up to par. Good luck finding employment and good luck making wise choices in other areas of your life as well.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: misha32
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:05pm

Oh, my gosh!