Help....

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2004
Help....
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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 12:57am
When mentioned to my boyfriend of 7 months that I live with that he doesn't show enough physical attraction. Like the little things that make me happy like when i'm on my way to work and he asks for a kiss, cuddling on the couch, hugs ect. And how he can be lying on the couch with me hard and he'll get up and use the washroom or have a smoke. Anything but have sex. He told me that I shouldn't expect anything and if I do than i'm only going to be upseting myself. Would that be and hint that he's only with me for whatever reasons i'm here and that he doesn't care about me or love me?



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Registered: 10-12-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 6:49am
What it means is that he's going to have a relationship with you on his terms and his terms alone. You are not to bother him with what you want or need because it sounds like he doesn't really care.

What should you do? RUN. Pack your things and get out of there. Someone who has that attitude is not worth the work!

Hope this helps... Good luck.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 6:57am
What was your reason for living with him without being engaged or married? What were his? Did you discuss how long to live together without being married or do neither of you want marriage? My guess is that he is taking you for granted because you moved in with him and are there 24/7 and you expected that moving in together would deepen your commitment. I also wonder why you don't just ask him why the affection/sex has decreased and whether he sees a future for you two? Are you afraid of the answer? If so, why are you living with him?