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Registered: 05-29-2007
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 10:44pm
i started sleeping a friend of many years, its being going on for many months now, he says he really cares about me and i him but neither of us are in love, however i think i could be if i could only define the relationship! he doesnt want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend, i know its not that he's ashamed of me as he openly had a crush on me for years before anything happened between us, all our friends know about us and see us as a couple, the only reason i thought a guy wouldnt want to "go out" with some one was to keep their options open but he's not dating anyone else and i am still casually dating, so he knows he can! why wont he call me his girlfriend?
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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: annenineteen
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 12:16pm
"why wont he call me his girlfriend?" - have you ever asked him?
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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: annenineteen
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 12:56pm

Why he won't call you his girlfriend is something only he could answer.

I think the bigger question is, why are you doing this to yourself? It sounds to me like you want to be his girlfriend..and if that's not something that he's wanting too, then it seems like the only way this could end is with you getting hurt.

Friends with benefits can be a good situation for awhile, unfortunately it also tends to get very complicated before all is said and done.

Best of luck, annenineteen.

Holly