Help!!! Dating Dilemma

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Registered: 07-20-2006
Help!!! Dating Dilemma
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Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:32am
Ok I'm seeing this guy who's 18 yrs older than me (im 24, he's 42) On top of that he has 4 kids ages 4-12, and is finalizing a divorce in the next month. I've known him for over a yr and his situation. We started out as friends even though he was crazy about me, I kept it on the friend level. Now that I've gotten to know him I can't stop thinking about him. One night we ran into each other and ended up spending the night together, no sex though. We talked for hours letting out

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:31pm
What is it exactly that you are confused about?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2004
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 11:38pm

Why the need to keep it secret?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2006
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 12:58am
Yes, I feel like he has a lot on his plate right now
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2006
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 1:05am
Because if everyone knows he will be in trouble with his ex, his kids might find out, and co workers and the public might give him a hard time. My family probably wouldn't be too accepting and I'm sure people might say bad things. At the same time I have strong feelings for him and I still want to see him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 1:45pm

Hi Beena273,


 
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 3:00pm

<< Because if everyone knows he will be in trouble with his ex, his kids might find out, and co workers and the public might give him a hard time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 7:45pm

I'm not sure that you should be waiting for this guy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Sat, 03-15-2008 - 3:39am
I think you're a grown woman and should do what you want.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2006
Sat, 03-15-2008 - 3:55pm
thanks, i appreciate your advice. i just want everyone to be happy!!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Sat, 03-15-2008 - 4:01pm
Yes, that's good but don't forget that first part said make *yourself* happy too, not just

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