HELP! Do you think I have blown it?

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Registered: 07-15-2006
HELP! Do you think I have blown it?
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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 10:45am
I just moved to a new city and a new apartment. I met this amazing person who happens to be my downstairs neighbour. At the time I moved in I had a boyfriend and then within a week I broke up with him. Now coming back to the down stairs neighbour, though I didnt find him cute or nice intitally after talking to him a couple of times thought he is very interesting and very cute. But here is the problem. First, I told him last week that if he helped me get laid I would help him too( he told me he wants a girlfriend but would be up for getting laid as well which is why I was teasing him!) now I dont think men like that. Second, everyone in my apartment knows that I like him and they have been teasing me about it in front of him and now he knows that I like him. Third,sometimes I think he likes me and sometimes I think he is just plain annoyed with me. So basically I am confused. What should I do to salavage the situation and ask him out like a 25 year old adult!
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 10:59am

First things first, keep your business to yourself. If anything happened between the two of you, it would not be wise to let the whole apartment know.


Second, why do you think he's annoyed with you? What's been said/done?


Third, if you put it out there that you're just looking for sex, then the only way to show him (without saying it outright) that you're not is to do just that--show him. Start acting in a manner that will let him know you aren't just looking for a fling, if you're not.


Answer #2 and we can go from there...


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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 9:47pm
Say that you're sorry for your weird behavior, you're not usually like that but breaking up with your boyfriend temporarily got you off the rails. But you want to start over, you think he's a nice person, and want to see if you can develop a friendship. Then take your time - you are just out of a relationship
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