Help for guys?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2004
Help for guys?
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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 4:20pm
Hi,

My girlfriend and I just broke up. I initiated it, because we fight a lot. The thing is, is that I can't stop thinking about her. I miss her a lot. Do you offer help to men here or is this just a network for women? There are not many sites that offer relationship help to men, unless you know of one?

What the???

Thanks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 4:53pm
drunkinpublic...

Pianoguy won't speculate on what your 'handle' means....but if there's an alcoholic problem---this MIGHT be the reason the 2 of you can't get along?

Why not ask yourself when the problems between you began? Were the problems caused by her behavior? Your behavior? Or desires from each of you that the other person DIDN'T WANT?

I'm sure many of ivillager ladies (and a few men) will be happy to offer an opinion or two, but your post doesn't really tell us much of anything. Care to share some information?

Pianoguy

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 5:48pm
Maybe what you guys need to do is learn to communicate without fighting. A lot of people grow up in homes where they don't learn to communicate in a rational or effective way, and this is something they need to learn after they reach adulthood. My advice is get couples counseling if you are really serious about this lady. Or if you don't have the money or think you can do the work yourself, go to the library and get some books on communication between couples and read them and try to put the advice in the books into action. Good luck! Iri
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 10:27pm
Hi

We welcome men - we love getting your point of view and I'm sure you'll find it helpful getting feedback from the ladies

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2004
Thu, 10-21-2004 - 12:36am
drunkinpublic, take it from someone who's gone through a very similar situation. If you guys were fighting all the time and couldn't compromise with each other, then you shouldn't be together. After you break up with someone, you always think of the good things in the relationship, but if you get back together with her, you'll see all the problems you guys had before. It takes a while to stop thinking about someone after you've spent so much time with them, but you should try to distract yourself from your thoughts about her. Sooner or later, you'll realize you're much happier without her.