Help help help

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Registered: 04-14-2006
Help help help
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Fri, 04-14-2006 - 2:08pm

I cannot--absolutely CANNOT--get a date for the life of me. Not a single bloody thing. I can't get a phone number, I can't even get a second look.

I was out of the dating pool for a bit, and I have come back, only to find that my mojo/sway/groove is completely gone. My career (musician) doesn't help.....I only meet strangers, and nobody wants to become anything more than that.

Every guy I meet is taken. Every other guy doesn't care that I exist. The truth is, putting away my self-deprecation....I am very pretty, slim and curvy, intelligent and funny. There isn't anything "wrong" with me....nothing missing. Some of my guy friends--who live far away--say I'm a guy's DREAM! and if they lived closer, they would be ALL OVER ME! But they live far away, and none of the men here even notice me.

What do I do? I'm starting to feel extremely lonely, as if all my self-worth is wrapped in having some idiot guy ask me out. I get asked out by lots of, like, delivery men and things (not to sound like a real snob, but....)...None of the guys I like like me back. It's as simple as that. I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2005
In reply to: piegoddess
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 2:19pm

Hey piegoddess, I hear ya.
Have patience.....

You will meet men you like who will like you back. Sometimes it just doesn't seem to happen, but please don't lose hope. There is always hope.

Get into groups of your interest. Have you tried that? I have done that before, and I always got into situations where I met a guy about my age, also interested in the very same thing, and it was nice.

I am in the same boat, I don't seem to be meeting men, where the interest is *mutual*. It's almost always a One-Way thing....It sucks. I don't know why it happens that way!

But there's hope.

Try to stay happy, feel worthy, and it will reflect on ur appearance, ur attitude, the way you carry yourself. All the best...and never lose hope!

*Hugs*

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2006
In reply to: piegoddess
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 3:56pm
Have you tried the online dating? Not for everyone, I know, but I've found it to be a good way to meet lots of guys and have small, mini "dates" via email, then phone, then coffee ...It might be worth a try even if it doesn't lead to finding the ONE.