Help, I like a guy that's already taken
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Help, I like a guy that's already taken
| Mon, 10-11-2004 - 5:03pm |
Okay, to try and keep this short, a couple years ago I met my good friends' cousin. He was already dating this girl at the time and when i was going to meet them, I already obviously knew this. I really never thought anything of it. A couple of times we had all hung out. His girlfriend, I'm NOT friends with, in fact, no one really is. She's a crazy girl. Even his cousin, my friend, doesn't like her and just puts up with her for her cousin's sake. One of these times that we all hung out, I started feeling an attraction for him, mainly cuz he was funny, and I took more notice on him. Not too long ago I ran into him and (liquid courage) caused me to tell him that I've always thought him to be cute. Turns out, he felt the same way and we ended up talking a lot and kissing. Ran into eachother again after that and once again discussed it and he came home with me. we didn't do anything other than kiss and cuddle but I don't know what to do. He even went so far as to say that he had watched me in a video that we had recorded while hanging out for some wierd reason. He says that he doesn't really love his girlfriend even though they've been together for 2 or 3 or more years. He talks as if he's wanting to leave her, but I don't know if he really would and although I feel bad cuz it's pretty much wrong, he's not married, and I don't like her...but I don't know what I SHOULD do. Does somebody have some advice. Also I believe we are both 24 or he might be 25, and his girlfriend only just turned 21.
Confused....
K

So he's basically come right out and told you he doesn't love her and he's willing to take on intimate things with you (kissing, cuddling and I bet even sex if you offered) but what he hasn't done is break up with her.
So until he does, I wouldn't give him any of the benefits of a relationship (kissing, cuddling etc.) until he does. And if he doesn't break it off, guess he really doesn't hate her as much as he'd like people to think.
People do what they do because they want too. If he wanted to break up with her and date you he would. Until he does that, you are just the girl on the side. If that's what you want to be, go for it. But know that you may be on the receiving end of it some day and it doesn't feel good.
Sheri
K