Help - I hooked up with my best friend!

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Registered: 08-09-2004
Help - I hooked up with my best friend!
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Sun, 02-05-2006 - 2:21am

So, I've been very good friends with this guy for a little over a year. Honestly, I've never been interested in him as anything more than a friend until about 2 months ago. I guess having my friends and family always ask me if something's going on between us finally got my head thinking maybe we should be more than just friends. We hang out all the time and I talk to him almost everyday.

Anyway, about 2 weeks ago, we were walking back to his place after closing down the bars on a saturday night and he kissed me. When we got back to his place, it led to us having sex and I stayed the night. I woke up the next morning thinking that we could rationalize this by just saying we were both drunk and it didn't mean anything except we ended up having sex again in the morning. He's called me a lot since and we talk like we did before and kind of ignore the fact that we hooked up. When I saw him a few nights ago, we hooked up again. I'm having a hard time trying to figure out if he wants more than just a friendship or if he thinks he's going to get a friends' with benefits. I really need to talk to him to find out what he's looking for because our friendship is not worth risking to just have sex. I think I'm just afraid to talk to him because he might say that it was just a mistake and he isn't interested in me that way. Help, I'm so confused!!! If he wasn't intersted in me, I don't think he would have hooked up with me in the first place and risk losing our friendship but I guess I'm just looking for another opinion!!!!

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 10:26am
You really need to talk to him. There is no other way to get the information you want.
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Registered: 08-09-2004
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 9:35pm
I know, I guess I just needed to hear that. Thanks!