HELP!!! I hurt him badly....
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HELP!!! I hurt him badly....
| Wed, 08-09-2006 - 10:45pm |
Well I met this guy named Mike in march and we have been talking on and off since then. The biggest issue with why things haven't happened between us is that he wants a very physical relationship and I don't. So needless to say he called me a few weeks ago to go to Dinner and a movie and I was seeing someone at that point so I for no reason I was nastty to him. I was rude for no reason... I am embarassed to admit it. so he later imed me on the computer and told me that he didnt need a bitchy girl like me as his girlfriend and i said back to him he never wanted to date me anyways and he replied "how did I know and i dont now".. So we stopped talking for a few weeks.. I called him 3 weeks ago and apologized for my behavior.. we went to dinner.. Well 2 weeks ago me and some of my friends and his friends met at a bar and I was drunk and after telling him I would never be mean to him again, while drunk(while at the bar his best friend even told me to go kiss this guy mike.. why would a guy friend tell a girl to do that if he knew his friend was uninterested in me... I was so mean and nasty and we both said hurtful things to each other....So again I apologized for my bad behavior. He called me last week to find out what bar I was going to.. in the same conversation he told me he likes me but he doesnt see things going anywhere with us.. So yesterday I called him and he told me that it was pointless for us to continue talking. He was also mean to me the same way that I was to him during the first fight. (During I first fight I told him I had someone else and he wasnt worth any more of my time and that I wished i never met him.. I feel bad for saying those things because now one month later he is still hurt by them).. One of our biggest issues is that I am also not very affectionate towards him either when we are together.. I am a virgin and I was really considering sleeping with this guy.. I want to fix things yesterdays conversation left off at he was going to let me know about things between us and he would call me later.. should I expect a call or should I give up now???I think he may be really confused by me and doesnt trust me.. I need someone to advise me how to fix things.. I really truly want to be with him.. and after 6 months of him still being around and must feel the same

You need to find a way to curb your bitchiness and compulsion to say hurtful things. Hurtful remarks serve no purpose and only fuel the flames of negativity.
Apologising for bad behaviour then repeating that same bad behaviour negates the sincerity of the apology...you may as well have said nothing.
Lastly, being drunk is not only unbecoming and disrespectful to yourself, it's a safety concern...and is not an excuse to behave badly.
Would you want to be with someone who behaved in these ways? Be how you want to be treated and treat others how you want to be treated. That would be a good place to start.
I guess I'm not understanding why you want to be with him so badly.