HELP! I need advice please!

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Registered: 04-04-2004
HELP! I need advice please!
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Sun, 04-04-2004 - 3:00am
If anyone could help me, I'm in a tough situation for myself. I'm a 18 year old student that attends college and in one of my classes, I'm attracted to this cute girl. I would like to talk to her and get to know her. But what should I say first? I've already had my chances but I didn't take advantage of it. The semester started in January and is ending at the end of this month (April). So I have waited so long, but I really didn't think about it until maybe March? If I talk to her now would it make me look bad cause I have waited so long? The first time we talk and have a conversation, should I end it by asking for her phone number or by asking to go grab something to eat? Or anything else better...please help me! I would really appreciate it. THanks!
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 9:54am
OMG! You are in such a great position because you have common ground. I'm assuming finals are coming up, right? So after class one day why not simply say "so are you ready for the finals?" That's a nice open ended question that will provide some information... SHe could say yes or she could offer an area in which she's weak which would provide an opening for you to say "would you like some help..." (If you know the subject.)

You can also ask her how she enjoyed the class, how she's enjoying the college, etc. I would go from there to see if there's mutual interest and then decide if lunch is appropriate or asking for her number is. (If you can help her study then the number part is easy...)

Just go with the flow and think of all things common to you--that should give you a lot of things to talk about.

Hope this helps...

 

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Registered: 04-04-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:29pm
Thanks for your advice. It has been really helpful. I guess now all I need to do is build more confidence and don't be afraid of getting turned down.