help me figure this guy out

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2005
help me figure this guy out
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 10:22am

Okay bachelor #1 canceled our date #4 last Saturday b/c he couldn't get a babysitter. Not a problem, except he waited until 6 pm to cancel. Now he has asked me out for lunch today... I have received a few emails from him the last two days and they are very friendly and normal sounding, but I have not had any confirmation about lunch today at it is 9:50am... granted I know he can still call me, but I am getting really irritated and I need to set this guy straight. Everything was going very well these last few weeks and now all of a sudden he is acting like .... I don't even know.

Am I being unreasonable. And I need some advise, IF we have lunch today I really want to take the opportunity and set this guy straightm, but I don't want to come across harsh or b!tchy.... How does this sound?

"D- , I need to share something with you. I am usually straight forward and don't like to beat around the bush, but something is bothering me and I don't want to come across high maintenance or pushy, but I like you, I am attracted to you, you have a lot of qualities that I am looking for in a man, but I'm concerned about how little we communicate about planned meetings. Whether you are aware of it or not, I have been left hanging on more than one occasion and I don't know what to make of that. Do you think we can communicate a little bit better about these planned meetings?"

I don't know, help!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 11:36am

How about this:

""D- Whether you are aware of it or not, I have been left hanging on more than one occasion and I don't know what to make of that. I would appreciate it if you would give me much greater advance notice when either confirming a date or cancelling a date so that I can schedule other activities"

All women worth their salt are high-maintenance.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-09-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 4:57pm
Don't email a thing. If YOU were on his mind he would be telling you about where to meet or what time he would pick you up. If you start complaining you are only going to help in him being lazy and not doing what's right. Let him learn...forget about the date and move on, let him find out when he is out of sight he is also out of mind.