Help me figure out what I should do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2004
Help me figure out what I should do?
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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 5:51am
I have a small group of friends who would meet every wed night to workout and gather for drinks after at a bar/restaurant. One of my 'married' work out friends had mentioned about introducing me to her single male friend in Jan. She did not contact this guy until May to find out if he would be interested in meeting me (I had to remind her many times before she followed up with the guy). He said he was interested in being introduced and hence my married friend invited him to join us for our ususal Wed night after workout drinks.

I was not comfortable with this setting since everybody in the group knew that he was being invited to meet me. Also, the first time she invited him, he cancelled in the last minute because of some conflict. The next time he was invited, he did not show up even though he said he would. He joined our group at the 3rd invite. Unfortunately that week he was the only guy in the group of 5 women. In spite of this I thought we had a good conversation. He seemed like a really nice guy

My frined called me the next morning to find out what I thought of him and I told her I was interested in getting to know him further. However, after this conversation my friend has made no mention of this guy. Should I ask her if he said anything or should I just assume he is not intersted? Also, I don't know what to ask my friend?? Please help. Its been a while since I have met a nice guy and would like to know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 2:15pm
Hi,

I think you should ask your friend point blank if she told him you were interested and what he said. That is the good thing about having friends, you can ask them anything and know that they will answer you with care and tact, even as far as calling him a 'jerk anyway' if he didn't like you so you don't feel bad. Either way, you won't know if you don't ask as it's pretty clear she hasn't broached the subject and might not plan to. I would rather know, whatever the outcome, than wonder. Best of luck to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 3:15pm
I agree with the other post--point blank ask your friend, but--If he was interested--he would have probably told her so and then she would have told you. I would take her lack of even acknowledging him a huge sign that it's a no go-but it never hurts to ask.