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| Thu, 01-12-2006 - 3:21pm |
hi
i really need your help on this matter im very confused and i dont know w hat to do,we have been together for almost two years now i love him very much but when dont comminicate im afriad to say things to him or ask him things about himself and he never say thins to me i want to get to know him but i dont think he likes that he is always distant and come to me only when he wants to have sex,i dont know his friends or his family i told him how i feel about him and he never called or sees me again for three months and now we are back togther i saw him when he feels like he always have places to go and friends to see but we dont spen quality time togther to talk and understand each other.
what should i do??????????????????
i really need your help on this matter im very confused and i dont know w hat to do,we have been together for almost two years now i love him very much but when dont comminicate im afriad to say things to him or ask him things about himself and he never say thins to me i want to get to know him but i dont think he likes that he is always distant and come to me only when he wants to have sex,i dont know his friends or his family i told him how i feel about him and he never called or sees me again for three months and now we are back togther i saw him when he feels like he always have places to go and friends to see but we dont spen quality time togther to talk and understand each other.
what should i do??????????????????

First off, you'd be much clearer if you utilized punctuation and didn't write one long run-on sentence. I don't know what the confusion is. He doesn't sound like a good guy. What do you love about him? Has he always been this way?
These are your words:
im afriad to say things to him or ask him things about himself
he never say thins to me
i want to get to know him but i dont think he likes that
he is always distant and come to me only when he wants to have sex
i dont know his friends or his family
he never called or sees me again for three months
when he feels like he always have places to go and friends to see
we dont spen quality time togther to talk and understand each other.
What IS good about this relationship?
Are you looking for permission to break up with him? Do you want to stay with this guy?
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This is no relationship with this guy. You don't know is family. You don't know his friends and you know virtually nothing about him. Relationships are about sharing and you have none of that. He just wants to use you for sex. You need to dump this bloke and find someone who genuinely cares about you.
I would say it's a Friends With Benefits but it's not even that. It's a f&*# buddy thing. In two years, you have never met his family or friends, you have never had a quality conversation, you know hardly anything about him because you are afraid to ask about him, he doesn't know anything about you because he doesn't care to know and he dumped you for 3 months when you told him you loved him. BAAAAAAAD NEWS, hon. This guy is using you and seems to care nothing at all about you.
Women attach a lot of emotion and "love" to sex. You think you love this guy because you are having sex with him. What you have is endorphins that cause you to think you love him. How can you love him when you don't even know him? You deserve a lot better - dump his sorry butt and find a guy that will treat you with respect and wants to know you for you and won't come to you only for sex.
I was stupid enough to stay with a guy for 2 1/2 years and it was just a F.Buddy relationship. It never left the bedroom. He was on the dole, we never went out, never did anything together, never hung with either of our friends, didnt form any kind of bond, apart from purely sexual.
But after that time i said 'i want a real relationship' he said 'i like wat we have now lets keep it this way'.
Simple descicion- i didnt want that, so i said goodbye.
Sure my heart broke real bad, but I did it.
If your not feeling it, if its not what you want, if you've talked to him about it and still nothing,leave. you've got a life to live girl.