help me please

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Registered: 11-09-2005
help me please
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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 1:36pm
okay. There is this really hot guy that works in my building (not same company)in the office down the hall from mine. I am 37 and he is 28. I really want to go out with him. My problem is this. I have been out of the dating scene for 7 years except for one brief relationship. I am quite shy. I only see him when he walks by my office to go to the elevator and he always smiles and waves hi to me. I meet up him very very rarely in the elevator when we are both going downstairs. What the h*ll can I do so that I can get into a conversation with him to find out if he has a girlfriend or if see if he wants to go out - maneouver him into asking me out. Help!!!!
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 1:59pm

We don't "Maneuver people".

The next time he walks by and waves, say "How are you?", "How are things going in your department?", "Did you see the new vacation policy?".

He'll stop and chat, and you can go from there.

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Registered: 11-09-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:19pm
I was just being flippant when I said maneuver. Unfortunately, there is a glass door between me and the elevator or else I would have tried to start a conversation. It seems like an impossible situation, that's why I wanted some ideas.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 2:41pm
Here you go, when Mr. Gorgeous smiles and waves, get out of you seat, open that glass door and say hello. He'll talk to you without hesitation.
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Registered: 11-09-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 6:20pm
Nice idea. I will try that and let you know what happens.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 12:44pm
Start with small talk - about the weather (you're soooo sick of all this snow) or preferably something more personal - you like his tie, notice he's a starbucks man too, hopefully he'll respond and the two of you will move from fun quick talks to a java break together to more
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Registered: 11-09-2005
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 9:41am
I am such a f**king loser. I managed to get myself in the elevator with him for our 30 second ride up to our floor and he was talking to me; of course I gave all the wrong stupid answers and then I was planning on asking him if he had all his plans in order for V-Day because that would tell me if he had a gf or not and i didn't. He must think I am a f**king idiot. Chances of me getting him in the elevator again are slim to NONE. No wonder I don't have a f**king man
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 4:14pm

Don't beat yourself up so much. We are much harder on ourselves than others are on us. He probably didn't notice that much. Was he giving you "Boy, honey, you are CREEEPY!" looks in the elevator? Chances are not, if not, keep trying. Just take a deep breath and remember he's a person too and nothing to be SCARED of. There's nothing wrong with being a little nervous around him, but he's not going to laugh at you, mock you or make you feel stupid unless he is a very cruel person and if that's the case, he's not the kind of person you'd want to be with anyway. What's the very worst that could happen if you were to talk to him? When you think about it in that way, it puts things in perspective.

Now quit making yourself miserable!

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