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| Tue, 02-07-2006 - 1:36pm |
okay. There is this really hot guy that works in my building (not same company)in the office down the hall from mine. I am 37 and he is 28. I really want to go out with him. My problem is this. I have been out of the dating scene for 7 years except for one brief relationship. I am quite shy. I only see him when he walks by my office to go to the elevator and he always smiles and waves hi to me. I meet up him very very rarely in the elevator when we are both going downstairs. What the h*ll can I do so that I can get into a conversation with him to find out if he has a girlfriend or if see if he wants to go out - maneouver him into asking me out. Help!!!!

We don't "Maneuver people".
The next time he walks by and waves, say "How are you?", "How are things going in your department?", "Did you see the new vacation policy?".
He'll stop and chat, and you can go from there.
Don't beat yourself up so much. We are much harder on ourselves than others are on us. He probably didn't notice that much. Was he giving you "Boy, honey, you are CREEEPY!" looks in the elevator? Chances are not, if not, keep trying. Just take a deep breath and remember he's a person too and nothing to be SCARED of. There's nothing wrong with being a little nervous around him, but he's not going to laugh at you, mock you or make you feel stupid unless he is a very cruel person and if that's the case, he's not the kind of person you'd want to be with anyway. What's the very worst that could happen if you were to talk to him? When you think about it in that way, it puts things in perspective.
Now quit making yourself miserable!