Help me PLEASE!!

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Registered: 06-27-2004
Help me PLEASE!!
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:22am
Okay I'm diggin' this guy and I think he is into me also.The catcher is he is my neighor.We chill out sometimes together and talk about things.A couple of weeks ago we decided to have sex and that did not change anything between us. I really want more than just sex. I want to get to know him more and have a relationship.I'm really not the type of person who just has sex with no strings attached.I really care for this guy and there is an age difference of a few years. He is not old dont get me wrong.What do you all think about people dating people with an age difference?And I'm shy.So how do I go about telling him I want more than what we have going on without sounding too pushy or mushy?




Edited 7/12/2004 9:51 am ET ET by bluidqtpie
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 10:34am
If you wanted a relationship with the guy, you shouldn't have slept with him no strings attached. Usually when that's the situation, the guy figures that the sex is all you wanted and is willing to go along with it. If that's not what you really wanted, do not be surprised if he turns you down. You can go and talk to him and be honest, but he may not be willing to have a relationship.

So go and talk with him, tell him that although the sex was fun, you realized that you wanted more from him and would like to start dating him. If he's ok with that, then great, if he says no, you can learn from it and move on.

Remember, it's harder to ask for something more when you offer something less.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 11:13am
If you want more than sex with this guy then stop the sex now and talk to him. He might agree to get to know you better too. However, there is the possibility that since he's comfy having sex with no committments he wouldn't want to change the deal; after all he's having his needs met and not yours.