Help me please!!

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Help me please!!
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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 6:35pm
I am head over heels for a friend of mine. We used to work together, but I've since left. We are still friends and hang out, but I have a tendency to stifle my emotions. I'm not a flirter at all, I don't feel comfortable acting that way. I want to tell him how I feel, but I don't want to ruin a friendship and I don't really know how to start that conversation! I've never been in a serious relationship, and I have many guy friends, so I tend to act "the friend" all the time. I just want to be sure he's not going to be freaked out, I would still really want to be friends with him if he doesn't feel the same way. How do I do this??

Thanks...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: fashvic
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 6:57pm
fashvic...

If you can't say it in words....send off a snail-mail card with a short personal note.

Please don't send anything mushy, but a friendship card and a nice note should do the trick for you. You'll probably get some sort of response within 48 hours.

Best of luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-24-2004
In reply to: fashvic
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 11:16pm
Just tell him how you feel about him. Make sure you stress to him if he doesn't feel the same way, you're fine w/remaing good friends. If he just wants to stay friends, at least you'll know and still have him. Good luck.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: fashvic
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 7:22am
Has he given any indication that he is interested in being more than friends?
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 06-24-2004
In reply to: fashvic
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 11:58am
I had considered that, even wrote it out, but I really think I need to do it in person, own up to it, ya know? I don't know if I could look him in the eye after sending a letter. Thankfully I'm not a very mushy person, so that's not a problem...

Thank you so much

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2004
In reply to: fashvic
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 11:59am
I guess that's what it comes down to, just do it! Like Nike...thank you
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2004
In reply to: fashvic
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 12:06pm
Well thank you!



I honestly am not sure about the messages he's sending. I'm not very good at deciphering these things, I used to have a much lower self-image than I do now, but things like this are still pretty hard for me. I tend to explain behaviors away and assume that he "just wants to be friends" pretty silly, I know. We went snowboarding and said how cool it was to go with someone who's having fun and not worrying or complaining. Just recently we were leaving a ball game and one of his friends pulled up in their car my friend introduced me. His friend then asked if I was the one he's been talking about. I explained this to my best friend and she said that I really shouldn't be questioning it, he just likes me. Ahhh! Silly, silly girl :)