help me please to explain his behavior..

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help me please to explain his behavior..
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Sat, 10-07-2006 - 2:56pm
thank you for answer...topic is not actauly anymore and the answer i got was absolutely correct..he is f****---happy to get to know it now and not later :)))


Edited 10/7/2006 6:03 pm ET by tired_of_pain

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sat, 10-07-2006 - 4:04pm
Sounds like he just used you for sex. It's happened to me more than once. Men are animals:(
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 10-07-2006 - 6:25pm
Though I understand the sentiment, I don't think it's fair to classify all men as bad. I've seen plenty a woman just using men for money or status or sex... People are people and there are some that are bad, some good. But please don't classify a whole gender because of a few experiences!!!
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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 11:26am
Excuse me but men are usually the predators and I've had more than a few experiences. However, I think in this case that the guy really has disappeared after the sex.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 11:37am

I have had more than one negative experience too and if you ever heard them, most would make your hair curl. My whole point is it's dangerous to categorize a gender because of a few bad ones. It's the same problem that occurs when a whole race of people are classified because of a few bad ones. That's what I was trying to point out--not only is it dangerous, but it taints our interactions with those we categorize.


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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 2:58pm
After one ugly experience too many it is tempting however.....
Changing the subject to the topic of this thread...what DID happen to this guy? Will the starter of the thread ever tell us?:)
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 11:07pm

Girl, I am so with you. It's so easy to fall into that temptation. But I also know that you're a much stronger and better person, just based on your posts. :o)


So now that you and I have been debating, I wonder what did happen to that guy? lol

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 3:17pm
*sigh* yes...the last experience was so deeply unpleasant it left a VERY bitter taste in my mouth but yes, I will try not to condemn the whole male gender:)
As for me, the last nasty experience finally finished me off in this country and I am taking the last of my savings and using it to transfer to another part of this continent of Europe where hopefully I will find some work! I have been living off my savings for months here:( Just as well the guy dumped me since I'd have been stupid enough to stay here with a jerk instead of forging a new life somewhere else.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:20pm

stefania9...

On behalf of the entire male population, Pianoguy would like to personally THANK YOU for not condemning all of us!

What you went through isn't the way most men feel or behave.

Some of us are actually quite enthusiastic when a woman shows how much she loves us! :)

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 2:08pm
PG....well...one day I hope to meet someone like that but time is running out! Just because I was 10 years older than this guy he used my age as ammunition against me and said if I'd been the same age as him he'd have been nice to me!!!!
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 7:01pm

That's such BS what he said. A creep is a creep is a creep. If he was a nice person/guy he would have treated you nicely. So don't fall for it.


And your time isn't up hon. Try not to focus on the time thing, it will drive you mad! I know it drives me insane at points... ;o)

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