Help me understand, Dating Doyenne
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Help me understand, Dating Doyenne
| Wed, 07-21-2004 - 5:39pm |
I have been going out with this guy for almost 4 month now...we are not officially dating or anything, but we see each other once a week mostly.
I have been playing it cool, not showing too much my emotions, so i wont get hurt. But lately he seems to get tired of this (although he plays it cool also) telling me things like "i appear to not care about him", or "that he feels used"(?!), "that he would start being sweet (he is, but no very much) when i start treating him right", "that he is just following my game (IM following his game!),etc,etc. He always is asking about me, about what i did on the weekend, if i met anyone, if i saw my ex (because my ex and i are talking on the phone now), asking things like he is jealous or really insecure... but he never made it clear if this was exclusive or not..Im not dating anyone else, just going out with the girls having a blast, but sometimes i act misterious, just to see his reacton, or because i dont want him to think im not datng anyone besides him if he is dating more people.He jokes about other women, i posted that before, but then he tells me that i get mad because i can tell the difference beween him joking or him being serious (i take all too personal)...but still i dont know, and that makes me pretty insecure, and i know i should ask but i dont want to hear somethinh im not ready for. Anyways, he seems pretty into me, he remembers everything, he always pays, he tells me thing like "his sister is making jokes at him, because he is going out and she figured out that its with a girl (me), or like im one of the women (besides his ex of 5 years) that went out the most with him, and thing like that.
But also, sometimes i noticed that it´s the same to him if we see each other or not....i cant tell anymore!
I really aloof about what he feels or wants out of this!!! And im starting to get tired of the games!
I have been playing it cool, not showing too much my emotions, so i wont get hurt. But lately he seems to get tired of this (although he plays it cool also) telling me things like "i appear to not care about him", or "that he feels used"(?!), "that he would start being sweet (he is, but no very much) when i start treating him right", "that he is just following my game (IM following his game!),etc,etc. He always is asking about me, about what i did on the weekend, if i met anyone, if i saw my ex (because my ex and i are talking on the phone now), asking things like he is jealous or really insecure... but he never made it clear if this was exclusive or not..Im not dating anyone else, just going out with the girls having a blast, but sometimes i act misterious, just to see his reacton, or because i dont want him to think im not datng anyone besides him if he is dating more people.He jokes about other women, i posted that before, but then he tells me that i get mad because i can tell the difference beween him joking or him being serious (i take all too personal)...but still i dont know, and that makes me pretty insecure, and i know i should ask but i dont want to hear somethinh im not ready for. Anyways, he seems pretty into me, he remembers everything, he always pays, he tells me thing like "his sister is making jokes at him, because he is going out and she figured out that its with a girl (me), or like im one of the women (besides his ex of 5 years) that went out the most with him, and thing like that.
But also, sometimes i noticed that it´s the same to him if we see each other or not....i cant tell anymore!
I really aloof about what he feels or wants out of this!!! And im starting to get tired of the games!

Dear Bel,
Its time to leave your games at the door and get real about what it is you really want.