HELP! My professor wants to date me!
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HELP! My professor wants to date me!
| Mon, 02-16-2004 - 8:49pm |
I'm a 24-year-old college student. I'm graduating in May, and my 30-year-old professor told me over the weekend that he's had a thing for me for the past two years. He teaches a performing ensemble class that I've been in for a while, and my friends and I have always considered him one of the gang. I've actually always had a goofy little crush on him, but I NEVER thought that feeling would be reciprocated. It was VERY weird to hear him tell me this - he's my professor for god's sake! - but I'm also intrigued. We have both decided it would be a very bad idea to pursue this while I'm still a student; he says he just wants to get to know me better, which is fine (right?). I think it would be interesting to see where this whole thing goes after I graduate. The only drawback is he is recently (a year or so) divorced and has two kids. How am I to tell if he really means it, or is just confused and sexually frustrated? He's a really great guy, but this is all very new and frightening (and WEIRD). He's been my teacher for two years, and we (meaning me and the other people in my ensemble) are very comfortable and casual around him. He's more like our older friend than a teacher, but he has just recently started to confide in and get to know just me away from my group of friends. We actually communicate really well and can talk on the phone for hours. The whole thing is very surreal - this kind of thing only happens in movies! Something this crazy has never, ever happened to me before. And the scary thing is, I'm very attracted to him - I've just been ignoring it. Is this all wrong?

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I've checked everywhere. The university has its employee handbook online on its website. I can't find anything about relationships with students. I asked him and he never got a handbook when he was hired in or anything. So I don't know what the policy is, or even if there is any, but that for sure isn't an excuse for us to throw caution to the wind. Thanks for the suggesstion!
-Goose
Thank you!
-Goose
I did read your post (I've read all of them!) and I thank you so much for your input. Things so far have been really great - I've really never felt like this about anyone before. I think this relationship has really great potential, and I can't wait to see what happens. Good luck to you with your professor. It sounds like you guys are doing great and I'm happy for you. Let me know how things are going - it would be nice to have someone else to relate to!
-Goose
Educated he is, but "hot to trot" aren't exactly the words I would use. He has been very respectful of me and of my personal boundaries. And as far as me deserving better, I think better is exactly what I've got right now. But thanks anyway for your input. :)
-Goose
Sorry if this was hurtful in any way just trying to give you some constructive advice.
Good Luck and I hope you make the decision that works best for you, not the one that works the best for your proff.
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