HELP need advice ASAP

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Registered: 04-14-2006
HELP need advice ASAP
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 4:04pm
Ok, so I have been dating this guy for two weeks. He came over for dinner last night and we had a great time. When he leaft, he spotted my vacation picture form 5 weeks ago in Jamaica and there are several of me and a guy I meet there, we are kissing in the pictures. He asked me about it and told him that he is a Jamacian guy I meet there. Normally, he texts me in the morning to tel me to have a nice day. Today he did not, so I texted him at lunch and he replies that he is "concerned about the Jamaican guy and that we would talk abut it tonight. WTF???? This was before I KNEW him. What the hell am I suppose to say to him when he calls me????

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 4:14pm

That is bizarre.

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Registered: 04-14-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 5:33pm

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 5:38pm

You didnt mention it in your post, but were the pictures of you and this Jamaican guy displayed in a picture frame?

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 5:46pm

Maybe he has a thing about people doing quick hook ups and he just wants to

 
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Registered: 04-14-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 7:59pm
They were laying in a pile with the other pictures that I was going to put in my photo album. Well, right now we are obviuosly not seeing each other anymore as he lives 2000 miles away. We have not talked about exclusive dating.
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Registered: 04-14-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 8:00pm
maybe...who knows, just have to wait for hom to call
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 8:34pm

It depends on what he asks/says when he calls.

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Registered: 04-14-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 9:54pm
Just got off the phone with him. He said his concern was that when he glanced at the pcitures that we looked very cozy and happy togehter. I explained that it happened before we met and that in the course of 2 weeks he and I had not talked about exclusive dating and even if we had so what my trip was 5 weeks ago, well before i knew him. He said that the pcitures hurt his feelings. I apoligized, but then said that in all honesty, if he had not been looking at something that was not out in the open then it would not be an issue. They were on top of my entertainemnt center. He asks if Eric and I planned on seeing each other again, and I told him the truth, as he is coming to the States for a visit this summer. He then asked what would happen if he and I were exclusive at that point. I told him that I am not sure I want to be exclusive with anyone right now that only time will tell. He did not like that answer and that was the end of the conversation. So my best guess is that we will not be seeing each other anymore.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 10:11pm

Well, that's his perogative, if he doesn't want to continue to see you--I'm not sure I'd want to date someone who wasn't looking to be exclusive after dating for a few months, either (in fact I'm in that situation now and I'm leaning towards not seeing the guy again because we're not on the same page with what we want in that regard).


But you were honest with him and that's all you can do.


Sheri


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Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 11:54am

Obviously the guy had feelings for you already and that's why the pictures hurt him.

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