Help Needed

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Registered: 12-04-2004
Help Needed
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Sat, 12-04-2004 - 6:33pm
My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. FOr the last 2-3 months we have been going thru a rough time because he's going to school upstate and im 6 hrs away from him. About 2 days ago, i checked his voicemail without him knowing and heard this girl leaving a phone number for him to call. i previously had suspicions about him and that girl, so i called the number. The girl told me that she had been fooling around with my boyfriend but they never had sex. She said that he told her that i was his baby's mother. (By the way, we have no kids.) After hearing enough from the girl, i called my boyfriend and told him that it was over because he was cheating on me. He started to flip because i checked his voicemail. Later on that night, we had spoken again and he told me that he was so sorry for doing it. He apologized and told me that he still wanted to marry me and have me in his life. He seemed to be so apologetic about it. I don't know what to do. Would i be the stupid girl if i took him back? I love him so much and we have been together for 2 years. He has never done anything before like this or anything to make me think he was cheating. Please help....
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Registered: 10-12-2003
In reply to: babycheekz420
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 6:45pm

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Personally, I've seen the situation too many times. My own brother took back his first girlfriend after she cheated on him and the next time she did it, it was even worse--left him broke, in debt and heartbroken. I think if a person is a truly honest person they will deal with the issues that are making them want to stray before straying.

My advice to you? Let him go. 2 years is a long time to walk away from and I know it will be hard... But in the long run, you deserve to be treated better than the way he's treating you.

Hope this helps. Good luck.