HELP PLEASE

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Registered: 09-26-2005
HELP PLEASE
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 1:44pm
Ok ive been on here before off and on the past 5 years. I have a bf that had very bad childhood. SO we were always on and off again, because he wasnt ready. I moved in with him for about a year and a half. He wanted to marry me and so on. But relationship started to go down hill sex stopped due to disfuction after he took me to look at rings in April . We had a fight i ended up moving out in Nov. He started going to therapy because he doesnt know how to show love or deal with it. He never had it growing up. Ok so hurricane wilma hit about a week after i left. We had talked everyday until then and saw each other once. He said it was very hard for him to see me. Then boom he felt too guilty to see me or talk to me after the hurricane. Its been months now. He braught me my mail last month and was affectionate but would come in my room for rent. Then he started popping up at the bar i would go to. Then he called. Now its been almost 3 weeks. The last time we saw each other he said he still loved me and missed me. He wouldnt kiss me but would hold my hand. I said to him i will find someone else since you dont want me, he said no that is not what i said. Well during the months we didnt talk i told him i did not want to be with him i just wanted my stuff. he stays at a house with 7 people he lost the apt from the storm and both our cars got damaged. He called my insurance company to take care of lack of money and called me when they called him. He used to text me if i text him. But i find myself lost. His best friend and i hang out on weekends. He says i have to make the move. What do i do. He

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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: cherry0125
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 11:02am

Ok well this weekend went ok i think. Friday i saw him at the bar. I got there and he was tired and cranky i could tell. I asked him if there was a future for us? He said he didnt want to talk about it now since he was tired and cranky and didnt even want to be out. Well when he was there, he was affectionate and normal with me like a couple. When he wanted to leave we started fighting. I asked him for an answer to my question and he said to stop pushing him, if i kept pushing him he would say no. So to back off, i blew up alittle. I told him if you love me show it, i know situation isnt right now for us, but if there is no future, dont waste my time.

Well sat i went again. I had gone out of town during the day, i apologized for blowing up on him, we had a very good night at the bar. He was very playfyl and loving. Also very protective and got jelous over any attention a man gave me. His bf got jeloeous too.So i know i have to stop being friends with him or explain more. We call each other brother and sister. But my bf showed he loved me at least sat night. We talked on the phone monday a few times about my car. It seems that because it was damaged in the hurriance after i had to move that he feels guilty about it. But he takes pride in trying to help me fix the car. wHILE we were at the bar he kept looking at me and turning away like he was a kid with a crush again.

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In reply to: cherry0125
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 8:18am
After sleeping most of fri, I went and met his other best friends one he works with and two he lives with mans . . Well one told me he still gets headaches, but he goes to the dr a lot for “stress tests”? which I think is therapy and still takes meds.. So he told me no to both when I asked. I went to visit my so called at work on sat stayed about half hour. one of the guys from fri walked up and said I saw you twice in 24 hours. I was like shush… But at least he said he didn’t want to settledown right yet. We were talking about his parents and his sister. I talked about my car and that was it … He also said he sees me racing home from roys when I go on weekends. Too funny.So one friend tells me he wants to sleep and watch movies when he is home. I asked him what happened to him coming over and he said he went back to work early which he did by 3 days. But he was very talkative, and playful… all his co workers kept coming out and anytime I would talk to his friend he would stare at me. His friend said when they talked sat that was the 1st thing he said that I dropped by to see him??? But i called alot last week at least once a day. But he did text me a couple times when i text him... But sat was nice. He didnt tell me to leave which shocked one friend but not really

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