help!!! PLEASE

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Registered: 08-02-2004
help!!! PLEASE
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:42am
I just meet this guy about 3 weeks ago and we live 6 hours apart. We spent the first night we meet just talking all night. We went our seperate ways and 2 wks later i flew to see him. He was great and I thought that he really enjoy our time together, as I did. I spent a whole week with him. When he left me at the airport it was just a quick good-bye nothing special. How do I find out if he wants to be exclusive without scaring him away? I just need to know if he wants to date other people. thanks I thought that i would also say that the first couple of days he was so sweet to me, telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky he was that I was there and how he felt something special. He is also going to my best friends wedding with me on 8/28/04. I just feel like things did a 360 that last day I was there, he didn't even kiss me the way he had all week. He told me all week he loved kissing me and he didn't think that it could get much better than the first time we kissed but it had.

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In reply to: froggiedak
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 12:14pm
Has he been in touch with you since you were there (by which I mean has he initiated contact, rather than you)? What have the conversations been like?

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In reply to: froggiedak
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 12:59pm
Yes,the convos are very short sometimes. He hasn't mention how he enjoyed our week together. We did talk lastnight and he mentioned coming to see me sometime. I just don't know whether or not i should ask him or how I should ask if we are dating other people or not.
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In reply to: froggiedak
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 1:47pm
I would just keep it casual, then, and assume that he's dating others, and that you should do so yourself. Exclusivity has to be agreed to, not assumed, so I wouldn't foreclose other possibilities for yourself at this time. I'd also let him come see you...whether and how soon he does so will give you an indication of his interest level (and I would let him bring it up, if you can stand to do so...I'm assuming you responded with enthusiasm when he brought up the idea last night).

If he does come for a visit, then you could discuss it at that time.

I'm in an LDR myself, and I hope things work out for you, but man, they are HARD, and carry a much higher risk of not working out than a r'ship where you see each other frequently.

Sheri

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In reply to: froggiedak
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 3:37pm
Thanks for the advice. kim