Help! Please!

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Registered: 03-29-2004
Help! Please!
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 9:39pm
So I like this guy (we'll call him Bob)who is in two of my college classes. We're pretty good friend/aquaintances and we'll talk and flirt. However, how he flirts with me, isn't the type of flirting a guy does with a girl he likes. its friend flirting. Sometimes however, we completely ignore each other.

Yesterday, we waved to each other once in the halls, and an hour later we didn't acknowledge or smile at each other, but as he walked by me, he did a little dance/run. Later that day, in the class that we had together, I was sitting and the only seats left empty were the two right next to me (we sit on cafeteria type picnic benches in this class.)When Bob came in, he stood right next to the tables but didn't sit down. About 3 minutes later, the last person in the class arrived and Bob told taht guy to slide in first. This way, Bob didn't sit next to me. yet, we've never had troubles sitting together before. Then, at the end of class, we finished our quizzes at the same time, and walked out to our cars together and kept up conversation the entire time. So what's up? He acknowledge's me, he ignore's me, and then he acknowledge's me again.

Later that night, i got the courage to im him for the first time (i'm also the one that initiated the email switch)and we ended up talking about school for about an hour while finishing our papers. I really want to be his frined (well, i'd rather it be girlfriend), but whats with the hot/cold behavior? Does he know I like him? and since I initiated the email switch and also im'ed him first, should I wait for him to Im me now? Please help, and quick because school will be over in a week and we're both graduating!

zip
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: zipzopzap
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:46pm
If school is over in a week, and you are both graduating, that is probably why he is blowing you off. Unless you guys are going in the same direction and going to be in the same place in a month or two, he probably doesnt want to start anything. From what you have said, it does seem more like he just likes to talk to you as a friend. Since you have initiated everything first though, maybe he thinks that you always will and he is waiting for you to ask him out. If you are going to be leaving soon anyway, ask him on a date, it cant hurt anything right? Then you can stop questioning. If he declines or make up an excuse why he is busy, you have your answer.

BTW, Congratulations on graduating college!