Help please! (kinda long, i'm sorry!)
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Help please! (kinda long, i'm sorry!)
| Thu, 01-25-2007 - 3:51pm |
Hey y'all! I have a quick question, and I'm in need of a little advice! Here's the story... (keep in mind that I'm in college)
I have a 'guy friend' who I was attracted to, but I didn't think he felt the same way back. And I was fine just remaining friends with him because we have a lot of fun together. The other night, I was really nervous about something the next day, and at 4 AM, I got online only to find him online as well... He proceeded to call me to ask why I was up so late, yada yada yada. 15 minutes later he shows up at my dorm to just chill with me b/c there was no way I was going to sleep on such a nervous stomach. (and he brought ben and jerry's!!!) ok, getting to the point... later that night he kissed me! Totally shocking me, but I melted. We have talked about it since then, and he told me that he could see us being in a 'long term' relationship (don't know what long term means to him though) but that the timing wasn't good for him. He is the president of his frat and with pledging going on right now, he has to give all his attention to them. He told me that he wants to have a relationship in a few weeks/months when everything dies down, but only when he can give me the attention that I 'deserve'. (those were his words) I can wait, but I am attracted to him and will continue to be. So do I still flirt with him? Pretend it never happened and wait? I'm confused! And, if I do decide to keep flirting with him, I don't want to come on too strong and be pesky. What's your advice? Should I flirt enough to keep him interested but then slowly back away and play the 'hard to get' route? And what do you think about the whole waiting thing... Is he bs-ing me? Thanks for any advice or opinions that come back!
I have a 'guy friend' who I was attracted to, but I didn't think he felt the same way back. And I was fine just remaining friends with him because we have a lot of fun together. The other night, I was really nervous about something the next day, and at 4 AM, I got online only to find him online as well... He proceeded to call me to ask why I was up so late, yada yada yada. 15 minutes later he shows up at my dorm to just chill with me b/c there was no way I was going to sleep on such a nervous stomach. (and he brought ben and jerry's!!!) ok, getting to the point... later that night he kissed me! Totally shocking me, but I melted. We have talked about it since then, and he told me that he could see us being in a 'long term' relationship (don't know what long term means to him though) but that the timing wasn't good for him. He is the president of his frat and with pledging going on right now, he has to give all his attention to them. He told me that he wants to have a relationship in a few weeks/months when everything dies down, but only when he can give me the attention that I 'deserve'. (those were his words) I can wait, but I am attracted to him and will continue to be. So do I still flirt with him? Pretend it never happened and wait? I'm confused! And, if I do decide to keep flirting with him, I don't want to come on too strong and be pesky. What's your advice? Should I flirt enough to keep him interested but then slowly back away and play the 'hard to get' route? And what do you think about the whole waiting thing... Is he bs-ing me? Thanks for any advice or opinions that come back!

I don't know. I disagree. To me it sounds like a set up and line for a no-strings-attached fling. "I don't have time NOW but I can see us together in several months from now. But while we wait, let's have a roll in the hay!" This way he can eventually say "Well I TOLD you I wasn't ready for anything!"
Who is so busy that they can't date? I doubt even HE is. I'm sorry - I just don't buy it.