Help, what's going on here?
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Help, what's going on here?
| Mon, 06-21-2004 - 12:43pm |
Hello everyone. Here's my problem. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. I'm 26 and he's 31. Last week was our 5 year anniversary. I thought that we were going to to something special. But to my surprise, he told me that "it's just 5 years of dating, not like we are married or anything." So we didn't do anything. In fact he spent it with his guy friends. Also, lately we have been talking about getting married and all that stuff. On that night he told me that he was not ready to get married but, he thought that maybe he could start on working towards a future for us but now he doesn't want to. I asked him how long he expects me to wait for him to be ready and he said "I never asked you to wait." What is going on? Thanks for your help!

It's pretty clear from this man's attitude that you are not his girl or his fiancee...you are an ACCESSORY. After the 5-year mark, most men either make a commitment or move on to somebody else.
You are expecting more than "I never asked you to wait"---so why in the world are you wasting any more time on this 31-year old male. Besides...this is a good indication as to how he feels about anniversaries, right? I'll bet he'd ignore a lot of 'em if the 2 of you ever decided to marry?
Give him up to the boys...and find yourself a man!
Pianoguy
I responded to you on Guy Talk...here is my cut and paste: