Help with Women

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Registered: 04-15-2013
Help with Women
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Mon, 04-15-2013 - 4:26am

Ok here is my situation.

I have liked a girl for a very long time. Since high school. We have been friends for a very long time and was hoping for something more. There were several problems that were occurring at the time though. 1. She was dating someone else. 2. So was I. 3. I am the worse when it comes to asking a girl out. Yeah, yeah, make fun of me if you must.

Anyway, her boyfriend, who was a real tool, cheats on her and dumps her. I wanted to make a move but due to reason 2 I couldn't. After we graduated, I wasn't dating anymore, and she wasn't either. Wanted to ask her out but she left far away for a job and I left for college. Later I lost my tuition to the economy (other story) and left back home to finish GE. I wanted to try with her, but she left soon for another college herself. It was a pretty long distance. We have kept in contact pretty well on facebook and I felt that I was ready to ask her out. I told her that I liked her for a long time and asked her. Turns out I was too late and she was dating another guy for almost a year. Story of my life. Pretty Embarrassing.

She still talked to me which was good. At least she is still my friend right? I could live with that. Until recent events. Not even a week later, she tells me that he broke up with her. I don't know if that is a sign from God or not. But here is my problem. As stated before, I suck when it comes to asking girls out. Even worse when it comes to even dating. I want to know how long should I wait before I ask her out?

 

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Mon, 04-15-2013 - 10:32am

So you say that she is still in college long distance?  As a practical matter, how are you going to date her?  Is she going to be home for the summer?  I would really wait until then & suggest getting together.

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Mon, 04-15-2013 - 1:52pm

tommyguy100 wrote:
<p>Ok here is my situation.</p><p>I have liked a girl for a very long time. Since high school. We have been friends for a very long time and was hoping for something more. There were several problems that were occurring at the time though. 1. She was dating someone else. 2. So was I. 3. I am the worse when it comes to asking a girl out. Yeah, yeah, make fun of me if you must.</p><p>Anyway, her boyfriend, who was a real tool, cheats on her and dumps her. I wanted to make a move but due to reason 2 I couldn't. After we graduated, I wasn't dating anymore, and she wasn't either. Wanted to ask her out but she left far away for a job and I left for college. Later I lost my tuition to the economy (other story) and left back home to finish GE. I wanted to try with her, but she left soon for another college herself. It was a pretty long distance. We have kept in contact pretty well on facebook and I felt that I was ready to ask her out. I told her that I liked her for a long time and asked her. Turns out I was too late and she was dating another guy for almost a year. Story of my life. Pretty Embarrassing.</p><p>She still talked to me which was good. At least she is still my friend right? I could live with that. Until recent events. Not even a week later, she tells me that he broke up with her. I don't know if that is a sign from God or not. But here is my problem. As stated before, I suck when it comes to asking girls out. Even worse when it comes to even dating. I want to know how long should I wait before I ask her out?</p><p> </p>

You would do well to ask her what her long term plans are... you say she's away at school--is she intending on living elsewhere once school is done and she's working or is she intending on moving back to where you are?  Once you find out the direction in which she intends on going, then is when you can put your interest in dating her to her.  It's really pointless as long as you two don't live in the same area.  I'm sure she would want to date someone who lives near her, you know?