help..i need some advice!

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Registered: 05-13-2006
help..i need some advice!
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Sat, 05-13-2006 - 6:36pm

Ok...I need some advice. I started dating this guy who lives down the street from me, and things were going real well at the beginning. We hit it off right away, had a great time, and really enjoyed each other's company...During the last week, we made plans on Wednesday and he had to bail because of work, but since he lives so close, we still hung out for a while after he got home...Last night, he had to work late and cancelled on me again and told me that he had to work...When I saw him out walking his dog an hour later, I asked him what was up...He told me his mom was in the hospital and he had to go there. He also told me he would call me last night to let me know how she is doing..

Well, I have not heard from him, and I know he had to work today, but he has always called when he said he would and now I have a feeling like I am being ditched. I called and to ask how his mom was, but he did not answer his cell...Anyone have any thoughts? Am I being paranoid since he has so much on his plate right now? Thanks

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Registered: 01-18-2004
Sun, 05-14-2006 - 7:36am

I'm not sure, but it seems like you are doing all the reaching/calling and he is responding. If it was me, I'd back off and move on with my life. If he is interested he would call you.

Cheryl

P.S.
Then what do I know - I'm single :)

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Registered: 05-13-2006
Sun, 05-14-2006 - 12:16pm
Yeah...I know you are right...Thanks.
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 05-14-2006 - 9:00pm
By your post, it seems that "he's not dating you" but "he's hanging out with you". Hanging out does not require to check in with you or call you. Friends hang out. Apparently you think you're both dating, but has he asked you to date him? Have you gone out on a serious date? Have you had the talk to date each other? If you have then you have all the right to be surprised by his not calling and you should call him to ask what's going on. However, it appears that you're only buddies who hang out because you live down the street from one another. It's possible that he's no longer that interested in hanging out OR maybe he's busy and his time is consumed by work and family matters, such as his mother. I'd go on with my life and if he calls or shows up then you can decide if you want to hang out with him.