Help...What have I done
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Help...What have I done
| Tue, 12-14-2004 - 11:47pm |
I have been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks and talking on the phone almost daily, we are both in our 40's. The problem is we had sex on the second date, then we talked the following day for 20 minutes, everything seemed fine. Then on the weekend I seen him online a couple of times and I buzzed him to talk, nothing. On Mon. morning I e-mailed him and asked if I was reading the signals right, thinking he didn't want to see me anymore. I told him I felt hurt and used and that it was the first time since my seperation. He e-mailed my back and said he wasn't home on the weekend and he thought I knew that. I did know he was going away but thought it was later on Sat. He had lent his house to his neices as a shopping stop over and they were online. They had let him know that there was a couple of messages came on when they were online. The problem is he said he did not know why I was lashing out at him and didn't understand my feelings, and needed time to think about this. And would get back to me.
Have I ruined any chance with this man and how do I say I am sorry.....I have said I was sorry and please call me
Have I ruined any chance with this man and how do I say I am sorry.....I have said I was sorry and please call me

Terry---
As usual...your suggestions to montanachickie are RIGHT ON THE MONEY!
But Pianoguy also had a thought? With all the follow-up calls, emails, and some of the personal irritation montanachickie revealed....do you think the reason the man isn't communicating with her is.....(drum roll please)......HE THINKS SHE MIGHT BE STALKING HIM?
Pianoguy
I think at best you have learned a valuable lesson for the next guy. I agree that you seem like you going full steam ahead and then overreacted in a heart beat. I think you're so eager to have a boyfriend that you're jumping to conclusions at the first sign of what you think is rejection.
I will share a brief story: I joined lavalife last year and started talking with a guy who seemed really compatible. He kept pushing me to call him/ meet with him and I was very uncomfortable with that, as I had just started the whole internet dating thing. I got to chatting with him one night, and he kept asking me to call him, so I reluctantly agreed to call him the next night. Well, things came up and I wasn't really home the next night (sunday) and didn't call. Can you imagine my surprise at the email I received Mon morning telling me off for not calling? He was so eager just to have a girlfriend that he couldn't stop and think about the life I might have other than him.
Anyway, I wish you luck!
Alison