he's 10 years older...please help
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he's 10 years older...please help
| Wed, 11-17-2004 - 1:01am |
ok i am 20 and he's 30. I started dating this guy this summer, and he had introduced me to his family and everything. Everything was going great and I could tell that he liked me a lot. He is definatly someone that i could see myself marrying, hes got a good career going for him, he's polite, comes from good family, treats me with respect, etc. Then we finally had our first "awkward talk" about where this is going....and he had told me that if i was a couple years older and i was out of college he could take this more seriously, and he also had mentioned that he would like to get married in 2 years. So from then on, we decided to just go with the flow, and if it's meant to be then it's meant to be, and we wont take things too seriously for now. So, at the end of the summer right before i went back to college, i slept with him for the first time. I dont know whether i should or shouldnt have, but i dont want to regret doing it. he said that he definatly wanted to keep in touch, and to call him when i get back in town. We have actually kept in touch throughout this year so far, and he wants to see me over Thanksgiving break. But Im wondering if he just wants to get laid, or if he may actually be interested in gradually building a stronger friendship/relationship. I am just trying to figure out what he's thinking, and if hes ever going to take me seriously. ANY HELP WOULD BE APPRECIATED!!!!!!! thank you!!!

Hello heygirl,
Bellina Fair here,I can relate despite my being a trifle bit older. Previously
in my late twenties dated a fellow 12 years my senior. He was charming,witty,
handsome,very successful owned his own business,my family met and liked Micheal
very much. We were friends for nearly seven months,he expressed how he cared
for me,but I was younger than past gals,but found me mature.Had common interest,
music taste,political views,loved arts and entertainment,ballet,concerts,the beach,
etc..Life seemed quite nice,despite declaring his love,didn't see marriage for
awhile! I was sad and asked why he didn't want this.Twas a mistake for me to
stir this issue up,he grew distant,saw him sporadic.Later found out he was
married,divorced and badly hurt by his ex.Said he couldn't see himself married
anytime soon,but if I waited possibly.P.S. 2 years down the road,gave him an ultimatum,
either he wants marriage or it's over. He said farewell my love and sorry if I hurt
you..Heartbroken,I went back to my country,England. He found me thru a mutual friend
the next spring,wanted to rekindle our love affair,I was stunned,but resisted his
charms. All I can say is when dating someone older take things slow,despite you're
consumating your relations.Build a trust,take time to truly know if he's serious
or just casual in future intentions. Do see him though,he sounds quite nice and
its super if feelings are blossoming into romance de le couer!(romantic love).
Best of luck,cheers Bellina your Brit friend
C