He's ALOT older than me
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He's ALOT older than me
| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:13am |
I have a concern. I have known this man for at least 5 years now. He is 45 years old I am 29. He has always wanted to pursue a relationship with me. While I find him to be attractive, he's a very nice guy, and he is good to me I always found myself shying away from a real relationship with him. I'm not too sure why, but I've always just kept it at the just friends level. Now that I am older and he is still available, I am finding that I am now ready for the type of life that he has been wanting with me for so long, My only concern is that with the age difference will we always be able to communicate effectively with each other. I'm afraid that he may want to stay in the house all the time and not enjoy going out. I think I am scared because he is only 7 years younger than my father and I am worried about how my family will react to this. He has alreadyasked me to marry him, So I am pretty sure that if we start a real relationship that we will end of being married, I am just a little unsure about the age thing. If any one out there has any experience with a similar situation I would appreciate the advice.
My mother always says " Better to be an old man's sweetheart, than a young man's fool"
But she isn't talking about her own daughter when she says that.
Please Advise!
Peace
My mother always says " Better to be an old man's sweetheart, than a young man's fool"
But she isn't talking about her own daughter when she says that.
Please Advise!
Peace
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| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 3:53pm |
The key to finding answers to your questions is about being confident regarding what you want. You really need to ask yourself if you are in love with him or not. Is there something about him that makes him extremely special, better than all the other guys? If you really love him and if you truly feel that he is worth being with, then you will have to defend your choice. That's why you have to be clear about why this relationship is so strong and so worth pursuing. If you are worried about age related activities, you can't just be thinking that to yourself. You have to explain to him that such bothers you and he should be mature enough to know if he would be able to keep up with you. But don't just take his word for it, make sure that his actions reflect his words. The point here is that to be in this relationship you really need to be sure of what you are doing and why. Otherwise, you really don't have ground to stand on against questions that your parents will have. So, just think about why this relationship would be the most important one of your life.
