He's Desperate!

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Registered: 05-29-2004
He's Desperate!
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 5:33pm
I met this guy out through some friends at a club last night. Great guy, good job, well dressed, smells good. Sounded and looked like the alphamale! He was smooth in just the way he carried himself and talked to people. He asked for my phone number and i did'nt hesitate to give it to him. He called me today just to say hi, and said to call him back leaving his number on my cellphone. This is scary and weak to me. I dont know about you ladies, but any guy who calls me too fast is desperate and only wants one thing. I like the challenge and to wait for his call. If he waits too long, i'll just forget about him. I just met him last nite, and he's so eager to call me. It doesnt promote the challenge which i like.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 5:59pm
Well, ok then ;-)! He's clearly not the guy for you! But some of us actually LIKE it when a guy calls the next day...to me it shows strong interest and confidence, not weakness or desparation (although I'd prefer that he ask me out, not just call to say hi). But different strokes for different folks, eh?

Sheri

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Registered: 05-21-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 6:07pm
I wait a few days to call a woman i just met. I will not ask her out on a date if i get her voicemail. If i get her vm, i'll just say "hey, its ___, give me a call back" and i'll leave my number. That way when she returns my call, i'll ask her out then. I dont leave messages asking her out. That's more of a beta males job
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 6:14pm
Good point about not asking her out on voicemail...it was more the "calling to say hi" language I didn't like. Your language is good.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 6:58pm
You're right, any guy who calls the next day doesn't know how to play the game. He should wait at least a week.

Maybe he's just slow on the uptake about these little rules and is basically a good catch. You never know.

Stop thinking about it too much and wait four days and call him back and set up the date or call him and let him set it up. Give him another chance.

Tom

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 7:36pm
Most women don't want game players. We want men who are sincere and unafraid to show their interest. I probably wouldn't go out with a guy who waited a whole week to call (unless he had a valid reason, like being out of town), and if I did agree to see him, he'd have a big strike against him from the get-go.

But obviously that's not true of everyone, including the OP.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 8:34pm
no way, I hate waiting for calls. Just because someone likes you doesn't mean he's desperate!