He's moving too slow
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| Tue, 11-22-2005 - 12:27pm |
Hi,
i've been talking to this guy since early October. We had our first date over a week ago. We went for dinner, we talked for 4 hours. We had fun. No kissing just a quick pek on the lips and a hug. After that we talked on the phone once, but no emails or IM for the whole week. I called him last Sunday, just to ask what he had been up to all week, of course between work and his new place which he's been trying to get settle, not much. Then i took initiative and ask if we were going to get together again and we planned a movie for this comming Friday. I am very attracted to him and, i really want this to go further, but it seems that it's moving slow and that he is also shy. Should i try some physical contact, or take initiative to touch? What do you think it would be appropriate to happen on the second date, to move things a bit faster? I'm not sure what to do, to let him know that i like him and that i would want to see him more often afterwards? Any advise?
Thank you.... :)

I have been going through the same thing! My last relationship progressed at LIGHTNING speed --- he said 'I love you' after 4 weeks of dating (!!!). Of course, after 6 months, we ended just as fast as we began.
The man I'm seeing NOW is the opposite... we've been dating about 6 weeks, and we didn't kiss at all on our first date. However, neither of us could deny the chemistry between us, and by the 2nd date we had major makeout sessions! :) However, he still doesn't call every day or anything... which my last guy did (from the start, pretty much); so, I'm having a hard time reading this new guy. I know we women want a crystal ball to tell us what our future is going to be (esp when we're 'involved' w/ a guy), but sometimes you just have to sit back and let things progress slowly, or at their natural course. Plus, remember that it's much easier to accelerate than decelerate. Maybe he's one who just wants to get to know someone before moving forward - and that could take time. Be honest with him and tell him your feelings (however, don't do that TOO EARLY... it'll freak a guy out)...
Just live in the moment and enjoy eachother's company - if it's meant to be, it will be. GOOD LUCK!