he's still in love with his ex
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he's still in love with his ex
| Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:04pm |
i've been seeing this guy for 6months i consider him to be a close friend not just a lover. i talked to him 4months ago about where this was going and he said he didn't want anything deep or serious, yet he has been the one acting like its a relationship, he even asked me to go away with him on holiday for a week and has got jealous in the past. he is a wonderful guy and to me there seems nobody like him, no-one compares, he treats me with respect etc. however the other day i intiated "the talk" again asking to make us official. Yet he declined saying "i don't need a relationship at the mo, i'm sorry", so i said "but i don't see the difference to whats been happening" and he agreed. Saying "he is ok and we are kool" making sure i was ok. he says he doesn't want to hurt me or loose me as a friend and i know he cares. so we agreed to keep it as it is as he has a lot on his plate with constant work and his dad just becomning seriously ill. However later I asked a question about his ex-girlfriend and first love of 2 1/2yrs and he admitted that he was still in love with her and that it kills him. which i already knew deep down. he has been split with her for over a year now and has had a few sexually incounters but no relationship since or long term sexual buddy. only now i'm not sure what this means really. to hear that even though i knew it hurt quite a lot and now i don't know what to do?? i know she'll always be a part of him and theres no chance of them being together again, but any thoughts on this would be more than welcome please........!!!!!!!

Pianoguy thinks the man is "jerking you around!"
You want something he doesn't completely want...even though HE WANTS YOUR EXCLUSIVITY WITH HIM!
The EX-girlfriend and YOU are both "comfort zones" to him. And who knows...maybe he has a 3rd or 4th g/f too!
How about giving him 30 days to decide what he HONESTLY wants? Can you be apart from him for a month? Sometimes...keeping a little 'distance' will often wake a few of us up?
Pianoguy