He's very enthusiastic about me.....

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Registered: 07-22-2004
He's very enthusiastic about me.....
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Fri, 07-30-2004 - 4:46pm
I met a guy online, we talk some times and then decide to meet personally yesterday. We met by the sea, have a nice time chating, I think he's very nice. Then, today we chat again online and he told me "I liked so much to meet you", "You're so beatiful" many times, "You're so nice", "I want to see you again and know you better", "probably I would want for a relationship with you"... then he asked me when can we meet again. I said that this weekend I'm off town, maybe next week we'll meet again. Then he asks if he can see me tomorrow before I leave town. I said no, because I don't have the time. I told him I like to take things slow, for us to meet some more times, get to know each other better, before getting any further (if it happens). He agreed with this. I like it this way, because I don't know him (I felt attracted to him) and I'm also dating other guys (I didn't told him that). He seems very enthusiastic about me, and it's getting a little scary. Did he really liked me overall or did he only became enthusiastic with my looks and want to get some? He really seems to be able to get involved quickly, if I let him. Are he daydreaming about me? What do you think of this?
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 6:09pm
Go with your gut feeling here. He might be after some if you let him. Be firm and don't let him overlook or step over your boundaries. If he's really intested he'll wait till you return. You do good dating more guys, don't put all your eggs in one basket.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 7:29pm
I just found strange he's being so entushiastic so soon... for example, online today he also said he wants to "conquers" me... how can he conquer me only after one date?? When he doesn't know me that well?!

He also said he plays in a band and tonight he'll have a practice with his band near where I live. He said he'll finish around 1:30 am, and if I could go meet him. Of course I said no! I'll not go and meet a man I only saw once at 1:30 am!!! Don't you think a man who has good intencions would not ask this? Or am I beeing too picky?

Edited 7/30/2004 7:32 pm ET ET by paodelo


Edited 7/30/2004 7:34 pm ET ET by paodelo

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 11:39pm
I think he's a charmer and wants to win you over with his comments that are not appropriate. Perhaps he's under the impression that you're gaga about him and he wants to see how far he can go with you, and even get in your bed. I wouldn't meet a man I just met at 1:30 AM either. That's plain unreasonable. In your place I wouldn't see him again and would ask him not to call me again. This guys seems creepy and could be the obssessive type, even a stalker.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 6:11pm
Ok, I talked with him about it, and he said he wasn't really thinking that I was going out at 2 in the morning, that he liked to meet me very much and only became very enthusiastic in see me again. And also said that he is not looking for easy sex, but for a person to have a relationship. He asked for a second chance... what should I do? Should I give him that second chance and meet him one more time, or should I stick with the first impression and never see him anymore? Please tell me your opinions, because I'm not able to be very objective.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 8:08pm
I think it's refreshing that he's being upfront about his interest. Don't you hate it when they play that game of not calling too soon afterwards so that they don't appear 'desperate'? If you're not as into him as he is, then that's something that he wants to know ASAP. Why waste anyone's time?