his BIRTHDAY is around the corner!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2003
his BIRTHDAY is around the corner!!!
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Mon, 08-09-2004 - 1:26am
i was in a 3 year commitment. its been 9 months since my break-up and it's been 2 months since we last spoke. i forced myself to cut all contact with him to help heal the pain.it was very hard for me to deal with the whole break-up and not talking to him or seeing him. i am doing a lot better now and days and begining to date other people. he has moved and im just starting to. in some way, behind all the hardships we had, we still care for eachother in our own special way. i had just realized that his birthday is just around the corner and i wonder if i should call to let him know i didnt forget. birthdays were always important dates in the relationship no matter what. after all, he remembered to call for my B-day, and that was 1 month after we broke it off. is it a good idea to be calling in the first place? he called me one day (out of the blue) asking me how i am doing, what i've been up to..am i still in school..., just chit chatting like old friends talking about each others lives. it was the last time we spoke and i was suprised he actually attempted to contact me and it made me a bit curious about what urged him call. what do u do when it's your ex's birthday?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 3:48pm
Hi Sandy,

How about sending him a birthday card? Nothing mushy or anything close but a friendly 'thinking about you on your birthday'? I will tell you that I did that to a friend I hadn't seen or heard from in several months and he called me right away to thank me for the card and tell me he appreciated I remembered his birthday. We started getting together (dinner only) once every month 'just keeping in touch' and then it was twice a month, once a week.... etc. He told me later that it meant so much to him to get a card from me on his birthday especially since we hadn't talked in many months. Try it... you don't have much to lose. Worst case is he doesn't acknowledge it and so you just move on. I don't think it would be something humiliating one way or another. Take care.